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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 714504" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>I think the suggestion of Job Corps is great and I do agree that it should be a condition of R.O.R.</p><p></p><p>There is always hope for our kids. Mine is 35 and currently in prison but I still have hope that someday........</p><p>Our children are now adults, they make their own choices good or bad. The best thing we can do for them is to not enable them as this allows them to grow on their own. We do not have any power or control over them. The only power and control we have is how we respond to them.</p><p>Be prepared for your son to rant. Hopefully he won't but if he does keep your responses simple and to the point. Don't let him draw you into an argument and remember, you should never have to offer an explanation as to why you have said no.</p><p></p><p></p><p>People are well meaning and say what they think is helpful.</p><p>As for hitting rock bottom, who know what that really looks like. I've thought my son has hit rock bottom many times and yet nothing changes.</p><p>Tough love for me is simply not giving into their wants and having firm boundaries in place.</p><p></p><p>There is an article that is at the top of this forum about detaching. Detaching does not mean that we stop loving our kids it just means that we not be held hostage by their manipulation of our emotions. It means that we have our own lives to live without the their chaos and drama.</p><p>Here's a link to the article - some great information.</p><p><a href="https://www.conductdisorders.com/community/threads/article-on-detachment.53639/" target="_blank">Article on Detachment</a></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 714504, member: 18516"] I think the suggestion of Job Corps is great and I do agree that it should be a condition of R.O.R. There is always hope for our kids. Mine is 35 and currently in prison but I still have hope that someday........ Our children are now adults, they make their own choices good or bad. The best thing we can do for them is to not enable them as this allows them to grow on their own. We do not have any power or control over them. The only power and control we have is how we respond to them. Be prepared for your son to rant. Hopefully he won't but if he does keep your responses simple and to the point. Don't let him draw you into an argument and remember, you should never have to offer an explanation as to why you have said no. People are well meaning and say what they think is helpful. As for hitting rock bottom, who know what that really looks like. I've thought my son has hit rock bottom many times and yet nothing changes. Tough love for me is simply not giving into their wants and having firm boundaries in place. There is an article that is at the top of this forum about detaching. Detaching does not mean that we stop loving our kids it just means that we not be held hostage by their manipulation of our emotions. It means that we have our own lives to live without the their chaos and drama. Here's a link to the article - some great information. [URL="https://www.conductdisorders.com/community/threads/article-on-detachment.53639/"]Article on Detachment[/URL] [/QUOTE]
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