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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 760983" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>Hi. It is not helpful to ask ourselves "what ifs." We can't predict or know. It usually takes an unexpected event for an addict to suddenly decide to get clean, if they do. It has nothing to do with us. That's why in Nar Anon we are taught to take care of ourselves because we can and to stop helping them because we can't. Even if we can bribe them into going into treatment we have no power to make them stop using. Just because they go in no way means they will stop. Most of the time addicts have to go into many programs before they stop and sometimes they still don't. It is 100percent on them. What we say or do doesn't matter until THEY want to stop. Then they do. Some don't though. So do we cry forever?</p><p></p><p>Best advice I ever got was to give it to God and move on and that has worked after we both tried hard, my husband and myself. My daughter is still a homeless addict but she did get SSDI and food share and Medicare so she has resources now.</p><p></p><p>Love and prayers.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 760983, member: 23706"] Hi. It is not helpful to ask ourselves "what ifs." We can't predict or know. It usually takes an unexpected event for an addict to suddenly decide to get clean, if they do. It has nothing to do with us. That's why in Nar Anon we are taught to take care of ourselves because we can and to stop helping them because we can't. Even if we can bribe them into going into treatment we have no power to make them stop using. Just because they go in no way means they will stop. Most of the time addicts have to go into many programs before they stop and sometimes they still don't. It is 100percent on them. What we say or do doesn't matter until THEY want to stop. Then they do. Some don't though. So do we cry forever? Best advice I ever got was to give it to God and move on and that has worked after we both tried hard, my husband and myself. My daughter is still a homeless addict but she did get SSDI and food share and Medicare so she has resources now. Love and prayers. [/QUOTE]
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