difficult child has been at "Camp anywhere but home" for 3 months now after his release from juvenile hall. The people have around 7 boys at the home and they live up the road. Despite the great job difficult child had been doing about getting his community service hours under control, and getting but NOT KEEPING a job because (insert any lame, nonsensical difficult child answer to sense of self here). I got a report today that they want difficult child out. TODAY. The man who has raised and fostered OVER 400 kids (get this it just slays me) has NEVER EVER in his entire 68 years on earth seen or had a kid like this one. (OH REALLY ROCHESTER? DO TELL) The owner of the group home told the caseworker today that he has never seen a child so hell bent on stealing, breaking into things, he is stealing bicycles (AGAIN), and not taking a bath, doesn't want to go to school, has stopped going to community service, hasn't paid a dime on his probation, and last night since they have been having SO many issues with him - they locked him outside at 10:00 so he took it upon himself to TRASH the lounge area. He threw chairs at the walls, put huge holes in them, destroyed the table, ripped a clock off the wall and then stuck a pipe down the commode and flooded the entire house with 12" of water - his comment 'Prove it'. So - caseworker called me and said they are bringing him - and I SAID SHUT UP.....SHUT UP (bad word in our home) I said DO NOT even tell me you are sending him to MY home. HE&& no! I mean it. And can you blame me? It took these people (you know the ones the agency said were the VERY BEST IN THE WORLD WITH KIDS LIKE OURS) three little months to decide enough is enough. They don't get him, he's destroying more stuff than he can ever replace (really?), he's put everyone in a terrible mood (oh do tell), he's lying, stealing, and the neighbors have called the cops to have the stereo turned down for the 14th time (WHAT?) and now they want to send him to my house? I said - and I was NOT kidding - Take him to jail - I do not want him or his shennanigans at MY HOME. I will not take him - I will move first. I will leave the state and hide out and you will not find me. (Caseworker told me to calm down) I said - CALM DOWN? OH..okay (very coy) "Then YOU take him to YOUR home until YOU find him a place to go and see if you don't get him placed a little faster!" OH MY STARS IN HEAVEN are these people serious? WHAT the heck am I going to do with him - if the BEST PEOPLE IN THE WORLD FOR RAISING KIDS like him cant' handle him or control him in less than 3 months. I know he doesn't spend much time AT the group home - he's off wandering, stealing. And NO ONE will press charges because if they do the group home will probably close down, be investigated by agencies blah blah blah. So I AM - (drum roll) A SAINT.....I am a SAINT MOTHER - The man told the caseworker if I put up with him longer than 3 months for doing the exact same things and WORSE? I should open a group home. Ah hahaha. ahahhaaha hahahah......someone take me away. Oh and then he says "Happy Holidays" I fell to pieces laughing. Then said -----yeah you too. HOW much smarter/stronger/braver/tougher ARE WE PARENTS - REALLY? Thanks for listening if you got this far.... Star The hiding star - I am invisible.