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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 689511" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Why would he chat with a heroin addict if he wasn't using? Why the sudden secrecy? Is girlfriend on drugs? If so, of course they are using together. Unless she quit, druggies hang with druggies. It is their bond. The sober do not hang with heroin addicts. The newly sober BETTER stay away from them or else they have no real desire to stay clean.</p><p></p><p>It sounds like he already slipped. I lived through a few relapses with a kid. If this were me? No money for a place I can't visit. Not happening. I'd need to decide if I was helping to fund drug use, which I'd refuse to do. I would insist on the address and visits and I'd do surprise visits, even if he whines about not trusting him.</p><p>"Trust is earned, Son."</p><p></p><p>You can set boundaries too. Weekly drug tests. Hair is best. No food help as there is no reason for it. There are plenty of free places to eat. There are food pantries too. He doesn't need your money for that.</p><p></p><p>I would lay down the law. You want my money, like a minor child? Then you follow my rules until you are clean and self supporting and not as dependent as a twelve year old while claiming you are an adults. Adults work and pay for their own needs and wants.</p><p></p><p>Yes, I did practice what I preach and she quit. Sorry, but it sounds like your son is still using. in my opinion he can work and pay his own cell phone bill if he's using it to text drug addicts. I disagree with rehab and am surprised they didn't send him to sober living before they let him leave.</p><p></p><p>Hugs to you. I know it hurts so much and they don't even consider us when they are using. They become very selfish, even mean, and they lie, lie, lie.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 689511, member: 1550"] Why would he chat with a heroin addict if he wasn't using? Why the sudden secrecy? Is girlfriend on drugs? If so, of course they are using together. Unless she quit, druggies hang with druggies. It is their bond. The sober do not hang with heroin addicts. The newly sober BETTER stay away from them or else they have no real desire to stay clean. It sounds like he already slipped. I lived through a few relapses with a kid. If this were me? No money for a place I can't visit. Not happening. I'd need to decide if I was helping to fund drug use, which I'd refuse to do. I would insist on the address and visits and I'd do surprise visits, even if he whines about not trusting him. "Trust is earned, Son." You can set boundaries too. Weekly drug tests. Hair is best. No food help as there is no reason for it. There are plenty of free places to eat. There are food pantries too. He doesn't need your money for that. I would lay down the law. You want my money, like a minor child? Then you follow my rules until you are clean and self supporting and not as dependent as a twelve year old while claiming you are an adults. Adults work and pay for their own needs and wants. Yes, I did practice what I preach and she quit. Sorry, but it sounds like your son is still using. in my opinion he can work and pay his own cell phone bill if he's using it to text drug addicts. I disagree with rehab and am surprised they didn't send him to sober living before they let him leave. Hugs to you. I know it hurts so much and they don't even consider us when they are using. They become very selfish, even mean, and they lie, lie, lie. [/QUOTE]
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