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<blockquote data-quote="rebelson" data-source="post: 689739" data-attributes="member: 19966"><p>Love this advice. Worried sick, if he's back to using, what can you do? NOTHING. There is <em>nothing you can do</em>. We only have control over ourselves and how we respond to our addicts. </p><p></p><p>Try and appreciate the quiet from the drama. Believe me, I KNOW IT'S HARD!! I have been living this for almost 10yrs.</p><p></p><p>Somehow, it's like we are <em>'addicted'</em> to our addicts. They are our sons, daughters, our babies. We love them! How can we just detach? I am learning how detaching is more loving for them, to them, than NOT. </p><p></p><p>My son was discharged from 'self-initiated' residential inpatient facility last Tuesday, (was there 5wks) and is now in a sober living men's home going to IOP 3x/wk. Some days he calls me, some days he only texts me, some days I haven't heard from him. <em>I am trying hard to let go.</em> Detach. </p><p></p><p>I think we get addicted to being involved, being enmeshed in their dysfunctional lives. It's been this way for YEARS (for most of us), <em>it's all we know</em>! </p><p></p><p>This is not healthy for 1. them, 2. us, and 3. our families. </p><p></p><p>Again, I need to reiterate...it is HARD, HARD, HARD to detach. </p><p></p><p>There is nothing you can do. There is nothing you can do. There is nothing you can do. </p><p>Sometimes repeating that, helps me. </p><p></p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/notalone.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":notalone:" title="notalone :notalone:" data-shortname=":notalone:" /> <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/staystrong.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":staystrong:" title="staystrong :staystrong:" data-shortname=":staystrong:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rebelson, post: 689739, member: 19966"] Love this advice. Worried sick, if he's back to using, what can you do? NOTHING. There is [I]nothing you can do[/I]. We only have control over ourselves and how we respond to our addicts. Try and appreciate the quiet from the drama. Believe me, I KNOW IT'S HARD!! I have been living this for almost 10yrs. Somehow, it's like we are [I]'addicted'[/I] to our addicts. They are our sons, daughters, our babies. We love them! How can we just detach? I am learning how detaching is more loving for them, to them, than NOT. My son was discharged from 'self-initiated' residential inpatient facility last Tuesday, (was there 5wks) and is now in a sober living men's home going to IOP 3x/wk. Some days he calls me, some days he only texts me, some days I haven't heard from him. [I]I am trying hard to let go.[/I] Detach. I think we get addicted to being involved, being enmeshed in their dysfunctional lives. It's been this way for YEARS (for most of us), [I]it's all we know[/I]! This is not healthy for 1. them, 2. us, and 3. our families. Again, I need to reiterate...it is HARD, HARD, HARD to detach. There is nothing you can do. There is nothing you can do. There is nothing you can do. Sometimes repeating that, helps me. :notalone: :staystrong: [/QUOTE]
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