Update on my one of my difficult children: 32 year old son in jail for 1 1/2 years for violation of probration (original charges were drugs (felony)and violation of probation), due to be released next week. He has a 2 year old daughter in foster care and an addicted ex-girlfriend. The jail may not release him because he doesn't have anywhere to go, and there are no transitional programs in our town. He is angry because I will not take him and his daughter in and won't let him use my address. He wants no advice and has no house, no job, no car, nothing. I know it won't be my fault if they keep him, but I'm torn between sadness and frustration and feeling helpless. It breaks my heart that he's in this situation, yet I know he created this through his choices and behavior. He didn't want me to visit him at jail because every time I set a boundary or have an opinion different than he does, he thinks I am mean and a lousy mother. He is controlling, manipulative, verbally abusive, blames me for everything, and is just plain difficult. At 65, I just can't take it. I am holding my boundaries, but inside I am mush -filled with fear, doubt, and heartbreak. Part of the fear is that I will give in or that he won't stop harassing and guilting me. Reading the posts here always helps. Always. Thanks.