As I posted in my other thread last Monday, (reminder)-->son called and needed $15 for 'fishing bait' to go night ocean fishing. I said no and held firm, offering $5 instead. He flipped out on me and after I warned him "I have to hang up, I can't do this.", I hung up. That was sort of a first for me, to deny him the small sum of $ that he asked for. That hang up was followed by around 10 unanswered phone calls from him within 5 minutes and then around 15 minutes of horribly hurtful and untrue text messages about his stepfather and I. How horrible we were to him (not) and the same old stuff he always reverts back to, his blasts from the past. So, that was last Monday. I did not call or text him until atleast this past weekend. Called one time last Friday, got his voicemail. Texted him a youtube song on Saturday, he LOVES music, unfortunately it's the hard rock awful, depressing stuff though. Called yesterday one time, got voicemail again. So, yeah, this is his modus operandi when he's mad at me-won't pick up the phone. He must be pretty ticked this time. Usually, he gives in and will just call one day shortly after he gets ticket at something I said or did... and act like nothing happened. And, usually it's cause he needs something. I am wondering, why isn't he needing anything from me? He has no extra $ except what he makes daily. Is he handling it better? Did he get kicked out? His rent is due tomorrow, does he have it all? If so, how? Is everything ok with him? I know his phone is being charged (meaning he's alive) cuz it rings & rings like normal then to VM. I peeked at his FB page the other day, he has it pretty private-posts anyway. And, I noticed his friends # went down by 1. I even got desperate today and called the 3 area hospitals where he lives to make sure he wasn't listed as a patient. Pathetic, right? It's not really abnormal for him to avoid me for this long, he's gone months before, when he moved in with his father as an older teen for a year. I guess I surprised him last week, when I did not do my usual caving in to his request for $. Up until then, I had obliged as I thought he was buying food with it. Usually when he ignores my calls...my anxiety heightens and I begin frantically blowing up his phone (calls and texts), until I reach him. But, this time I am not. I think he is surprised. And maybe wondering why. Or maybe he doesn't care. In any case, it's unusual for me to not blow up his phone. The song I texted him has given me a lot of comfort these past few days...I will share it. I hope I am allowed. Yes, I texted this song to him. There's a chance he WILL listen to it and not just delete it. When he was in jail for those 8 months, he was listening to christian music....and still likes a few of the ones he heard there. Not long ago, he texted me one to listen to...it was a christian song he heard 1st in jail. But, his preference is the incomprehensible screaming, downer, depressing hard rock songs. (Slayer comes to mind) I have tried to tell him, so often, that what you feed in to your mind, comes out via your heart, actions. He is a stubborn one. Any advice on how to deal with the silence is appreciated. I try not to come on too much and babble, bore you all. We all have our current, ongoing dramas. Yes, my phone has been quiet and I like it, but I also hate it. I miss my son so much.