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<blockquote data-quote="busywend" data-source="post: 55840" data-attributes="member: 391"><p>Maybe I am biased due to my difficult child being anxiety ridden and also Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). </p><p></p><p>My daughter can not even sit in the same room if the volume is not on an even number. </p><p>I would have assumed he was fearful of sitting on a bridge. And I would have offered to take him some place else to sit. If you did not have time for that because he took off and I am sure that made you quite emotional from the fear of harm coming to him, what were you trying to accomplish when you grabbed his shoulders. You told him to STOP. He was about to meltdown, telling him to stop will only make it worse. I think this is what your neighbor was trying to tell you when she said to take a break and to not say a word to him. </p><p></p><p>If I were you, I would tell difficult child that his running made you so fearful that you could only think about what harm could have happened to him and not about his feelings or thoughts that caused him to run in the first place. You realize now that grabbing the shoulders and telling him to stop was not the best way to handle the situation and see if he can tell you what he really wanted you to do or what he thinks the best things for you to do would have been. </p><p>He is 12, he should be able to think through that.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="busywend, post: 55840, member: 391"] Maybe I am biased due to my difficult child being anxiety ridden and also Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). My daughter can not even sit in the same room if the volume is not on an even number. I would have assumed he was fearful of sitting on a bridge. And I would have offered to take him some place else to sit. If you did not have time for that because he took off and I am sure that made you quite emotional from the fear of harm coming to him, what were you trying to accomplish when you grabbed his shoulders. You told him to STOP. He was about to meltdown, telling him to stop will only make it worse. I think this is what your neighbor was trying to tell you when she said to take a break and to not say a word to him. If I were you, I would tell difficult child that his running made you so fearful that you could only think about what harm could have happened to him and not about his feelings or thoughts that caused him to run in the first place. You realize now that grabbing the shoulders and telling him to stop was not the best way to handle the situation and see if he can tell you what he really wanted you to do or what he thinks the best things for you to do would have been. He is 12, he should be able to think through that. [/QUOTE]
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