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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 712762" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Anybody would.</p><p>It is not only the responsibility (and lack) of the health system, it is your son's.</p><p>Most definitely it is not your primary responsibility. He is his own responsibility.</p><p>What about supervised withdrawal by a physician who specializes in addiction? This kind of specialist is not uncommon. He could be at home and monitored by the physician and an auxiliary therapist. This could happen now.</p><p></p><p>It seems like the way he is defining the situation right now is that his continued illegal and dangerous use of all of these substances is sanctioned by the necessity to wait for a bed to open up. This is not true. He is using this circumstance as an excuse. I do not buy it. If I was in your situation I would try to think of a response for right now. I would not let him continue in your house using all of these drugs, with the excuse, <em>nobody will help me</em>. There is supervised withdrawal by a physician. I would insist he call the doctor right now as a condition of his staying in your house. I would hold his feet to the fire. </p><p></p><p>(Of course we all know how paralyzed I feel by my own circumstances. How afraid. How sad. I am not saying this is easy, or what I say is right. I am giving you my honest sense of what one course of action could be. How I wish I could be. Maybe that.)</p><p></p><p>My sense is that our sons are playing us and milking the situation, dominating us. We deserve love, respect and protection. Your son owes you that. I understand that our sons do not love themselves right now, but allowing their worst natures to run us, does not help. I am speaking to myself here.</p><p></p><p>Colleen with all of my heart I hope you go to work. You love it and it defines so much of who you are and your hopes for yourself. Do not put this important thing to the side. More than ever you are called to protect and take a stand for yourself. Me too. Do not fall into the destructive cycle that I have allowed. Take care.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 712762, member: 18958"] Anybody would. It is not only the responsibility (and lack) of the health system, it is your son's. Most definitely it is not your primary responsibility. He is his own responsibility. What about supervised withdrawal by a physician who specializes in addiction? This kind of specialist is not uncommon. He could be at home and monitored by the physician and an auxiliary therapist. This could happen now. It seems like the way he is defining the situation right now is that his continued illegal and dangerous use of all of these substances is sanctioned by the necessity to wait for a bed to open up. This is not true. He is using this circumstance as an excuse. I do not buy it. If I was in your situation I would try to think of a response for right now. I would not let him continue in your house using all of these drugs, with the excuse, [I]nobody will help me[/I]. There is supervised withdrawal by a physician. I would insist he call the doctor right now as a condition of his staying in your house. I would hold his feet to the fire. (Of course we all know how paralyzed I feel by my own circumstances. How afraid. How sad. I am not saying this is easy, or what I say is right. I am giving you my honest sense of what one course of action could be. How I wish I could be. Maybe that.) My sense is that our sons are playing us and milking the situation, dominating us. We deserve love, respect and protection. Your son owes you that. I understand that our sons do not love themselves right now, but allowing their worst natures to run us, does not help. I am speaking to myself here. Colleen with all of my heart I hope you go to work. You love it and it defines so much of who you are and your hopes for yourself. Do not put this important thing to the side. More than ever you are called to protect and take a stand for yourself. Me too. Do not fall into the destructive cycle that I have allowed. Take care. [/QUOTE]
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