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<blockquote data-quote="Kalahou" data-source="post: 685583" data-attributes="member: 19617"><p><em>savior no more,</em></p><p>You are not alone here. We understand your hurting heart, the sadness, the loss. My son also has been in jail some months now awaiting a trial or other disposition of his case. I don’t know what will happen. I still care about him very much. As you said, you know this will pass. I can see how strong you are, realizing and understanding your need to detach from obsessing about his situation and your desire to focus on making YOUR life more positive.. Your son’s being in jail has nothing to do with you or with anything you did.</p><p></p><p>Many others here also have had and now have difficult children in prison. I choose to think that there is benefit and profit in all situations. Perhaps he is in a place now that has a variety of potentially life changing opportunities for him. Maybe this is the "rock bottom" that he needs to hit in order to make changes..</p><p></p><p>It is extremely sad and breaks our hearts. But we can’t allow our difficult children’s behaviors and situation to keep our lives depressed. Even with limited insight and judgement, your son (as did my own) made his own bad decisions, and was involved in some way with a crime. It's unfortunate ... but there is nothing anyone else can make him do or fix it for him … It is repeated over and over on this forum… <em>“He is the only one who can change him”</em>. I hold a hope that maybe some one in the jail will have a positive affect and assist him in that direction.</p><p></p><p>One time a friend shared to me that if the <em>“higher powers that be” </em>had providentially through circumstances put someone in a place to help them, perhaps meant for the best, who were we (and why would we) to try to remove him from that place, or feel sad he was there?<em> </em>It gives me some food for thought, when I remember my son in jail.</p><p></p><p>SNM, hang in there. We will stick together through these trials and come through the fire, stronger and purified. Stay with us here. Know <em>you are going to be alright</em>. ~ Kalahou</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kalahou, post: 685583, member: 19617"] [I]savior no more,[/I] You are not alone here. We understand your hurting heart, the sadness, the loss. My son also has been in jail some months now awaiting a trial or other disposition of his case. I don’t know what will happen. I still care about him very much. As you said, you know this will pass. I can see how strong you are, realizing and understanding your need to detach from obsessing about his situation and your desire to focus on making YOUR life more positive.. Your son’s being in jail has nothing to do with you or with anything you did. Many others here also have had and now have difficult children in prison. I choose to think that there is benefit and profit in all situations. Perhaps he is in a place now that has a variety of potentially life changing opportunities for him. Maybe this is the "rock bottom" that he needs to hit in order to make changes.. It is extremely sad and breaks our hearts. But we can’t allow our difficult children’s behaviors and situation to keep our lives depressed. Even with limited insight and judgement, your son (as did my own) made his own bad decisions, and was involved in some way with a crime. It's unfortunate ... but there is nothing anyone else can make him do or fix it for him … It is repeated over and over on this forum… [I]“He is the only one who can change him”[/I]. I hold a hope that maybe some one in the jail will have a positive affect and assist him in that direction. One time a friend shared to me that if the [I]“higher powers that be” [/I]had providentially through circumstances put someone in a place to help them, perhaps meant for the best, who were we (and why would we) to try to remove him from that place, or feel sad he was there?[I] [/I]It gives me some food for thought, when I remember my son in jail. SNM, hang in there. We will stick together through these trials and come through the fire, stronger and purified. Stay with us here. Know [I]you are going to be alright[/I]. ~ Kalahou [/QUOTE]
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