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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 654305" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Friends, I don't have an adopted child so I can't know what you are feeling.</p><p></p><p>But, my family of origin had four children and one was disabled from birth. She died when she was 23. My family went through all kinds of emotions, fears, regrets, insecurities and dysfunctions because we were a family with a disabled child and we reacted accordingly.</p><p></p><p>I don't believe there is a "normal" family. It just doesn't exist. Media wants to tell us it does, and that is the yardstick by which we measure ourselves.</p><p></p><p>Maybe...it's just that we all have our own "stuff" and while it's a little bit different---the details---the outcome is the same.</p><p></p><p>We are all only human.</p><p>We love the best we know how to love at the time.</p><p>People react in different ways.</p><p>There is a lot of hurt and pain.</p><p>There is also a lot of joy.</p><p></p><p>I can't believe the people on this site are any more or any less bad or good people than others out there.</p><p></p><p>We all did the best we could, and there was never a level playing field for any of us...that so-called normal.</p><p></p><p>We can spin in circles all day asking Why and I understand that step is necessary for moving on. I spent a lot of time on Why too.</p><p></p><p>Finally, I let go of why. It is what it is. </p><p></p><p>We all need to use every resource at our disposal to live the healthiest lives we can live. We can wish that others we love would, too, but that is their decision.</p><p></p><p>In the end, we have to learn to let so very much go, or we torture ourselves needlessly.</p><p></p><p>We are only human. We did and will make lots of mistakes. We are sorry for the pain we cause others, and we try to do better as we know better.</p><p></p><p>What else can we possibly do? </p><p></p><p>Hang in there, you good people...hang in there with yourselves. There is much joy and peace and hope to be found as you move through this. </p><p></p><p>We are here with you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 654305, member: 17542"] Friends, I don't have an adopted child so I can't know what you are feeling. But, my family of origin had four children and one was disabled from birth. She died when she was 23. My family went through all kinds of emotions, fears, regrets, insecurities and dysfunctions because we were a family with a disabled child and we reacted accordingly. I don't believe there is a "normal" family. It just doesn't exist. Media wants to tell us it does, and that is the yardstick by which we measure ourselves. Maybe...it's just that we all have our own "stuff" and while it's a little bit different---the details---the outcome is the same. We are all only human. We love the best we know how to love at the time. People react in different ways. There is a lot of hurt and pain. There is also a lot of joy. I can't believe the people on this site are any more or any less bad or good people than others out there. We all did the best we could, and there was never a level playing field for any of us...that so-called normal. We can spin in circles all day asking Why and I understand that step is necessary for moving on. I spent a lot of time on Why too. Finally, I let go of why. It is what it is. We all need to use every resource at our disposal to live the healthiest lives we can live. We can wish that others we love would, too, but that is their decision. In the end, we have to learn to let so very much go, or we torture ourselves needlessly. We are only human. We did and will make lots of mistakes. We are sorry for the pain we cause others, and we try to do better as we know better. What else can we possibly do? Hang in there, you good people...hang in there with yourselves. There is much joy and peace and hope to be found as you move through this. We are here with you. [/QUOTE]
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