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Son is homeless, jobless, penniless, but in treatment
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<blockquote data-quote="Carol55" data-source="post: 714123" data-attributes="member: 22003"><p>Thank you CollenB and RN0441. </p><p>There are so many of us dealing with this in some form or another!</p><p>I agree with you RN0441 that one of the hardest things is knowing that we will be dealing with this for the rest of our lives. That is my husbands mantra "And the worst thing is, this is never going to end".</p><p></p><p>When the 2 groups were together last night (the family members and the addicts), the Al-a-non volunteer said he (our son) needs to be given the dignity of finding his own place, job, way. I know that he has to do that, but I like that she used the word "dignity" in there - focusing on how it will be good for his well-being instead of totally on how it affects us. It puts a different perspective on it.</p><p></p><p>I believe that you are right ColleenB that most addicts want change. I don't think they wake up every morning and wonder how they can hurt themselves and their loved ones. Unfortunately, we are collateral damage from their use of these substances that have such a hold over them. I just started reading a book called "Setting Boundaries With Your Adult Children". It could have been written with my husband and I in mind (and, I suspect every person reading this post). While I've always known what enablers we have been, reading this kind of punched me in the throat and said "Stop it!".</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Carol55, post: 714123, member: 22003"] Thank you CollenB and RN0441. There are so many of us dealing with this in some form or another! I agree with you RN0441 that one of the hardest things is knowing that we will be dealing with this for the rest of our lives. That is my husbands mantra "And the worst thing is, this is never going to end". When the 2 groups were together last night (the family members and the addicts), the Al-a-non volunteer said he (our son) needs to be given the dignity of finding his own place, job, way. I know that he has to do that, but I like that she used the word "dignity" in there - focusing on how it will be good for his well-being instead of totally on how it affects us. It puts a different perspective on it. I believe that you are right ColleenB that most addicts want change. I don't think they wake up every morning and wonder how they can hurt themselves and their loved ones. Unfortunately, we are collateral damage from their use of these substances that have such a hold over them. I just started reading a book called "Setting Boundaries With Your Adult Children". It could have been written with my husband and I in mind (and, I suspect every person reading this post). While I've always known what enablers we have been, reading this kind of punched me in the throat and said "Stop it!". [/QUOTE]
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