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<blockquote data-quote="Littleboylost" data-source="post: 723488" data-attributes="member: 21895"><p>Yes! I have to stay out of my own head, it’s a dangerous place to dwell. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I so wish this wasn’t so. Yes it is so very hard to do the right thing. The brain has to anesthetize the heart to get the courage to move forward and act in the right way. We must remember if love could cure this none of us would be here. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>This speaks volumes of where we are at in our own personal space doesn’t it? </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>This is what I pray for. Our therapist today told my husband and I to ensure that we prepare for the variables of outcomes that can come from this latest turn of events. To respect that he variable is choice and it is sons choice, not ours. We don’t own the outcome he does. That is making more and more sense and the FOG is lifting. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>CB I can not tell you how much what I did in terms of calling the police and pressing charges, had to do directly with knowing we had done everything possible to help him. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Yes he is removed from the open environment it is exactly that a rescue. He will get detox the hard way but it will happen. With a clear mind he can make his next decisions for himself in a better fashion. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Yes indeed you are so right. I do not want to see him right now. I am too angry. </p><p></p><p>Thank you all for your kind support. The hardest thing I did after calling the police on my son was to refuse to bail him out. That call came from the Court House today. And the next difficult thing I did was post this turn of events here. We wear their shame for them. Why we do I will never understand, but we do. It is what it is. </p><p></p><p>The Shame of being Duped, taken for a ride for the umpteenth time, and the shame of raising this addicted man child. </p><p>I need to unlearn this wearing of shame. There is no shame in anything I have done! </p><p></p><p>When we isolate ourselves we cut ourselves off from our supports, that is dangerous to do.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Littleboylost, post: 723488, member: 21895"] Yes! I have to stay out of my own head, it’s a dangerous place to dwell. I so wish this wasn’t so. Yes it is so very hard to do the right thing. The brain has to anesthetize the heart to get the courage to move forward and act in the right way. We must remember if love could cure this none of us would be here. This speaks volumes of where we are at in our own personal space doesn’t it? This is what I pray for. Our therapist today told my husband and I to ensure that we prepare for the variables of outcomes that can come from this latest turn of events. To respect that he variable is choice and it is sons choice, not ours. We don’t own the outcome he does. That is making more and more sense and the FOG is lifting. CB I can not tell you how much what I did in terms of calling the police and pressing charges, had to do directly with knowing we had done everything possible to help him. Yes he is removed from the open environment it is exactly that a rescue. He will get detox the hard way but it will happen. With a clear mind he can make his next decisions for himself in a better fashion. Yes indeed you are so right. I do not want to see him right now. I am too angry. Thank you all for your kind support. The hardest thing I did after calling the police on my son was to refuse to bail him out. That call came from the Court House today. And the next difficult thing I did was post this turn of events here. We wear their shame for them. Why we do I will never understand, but we do. It is what it is. The Shame of being Duped, taken for a ride for the umpteenth time, and the shame of raising this addicted man child. I need to unlearn this wearing of shame. There is no shame in anything I have done! When we isolate ourselves we cut ourselves off from our supports, that is dangerous to do. [/QUOTE]
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