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son is in partial hospitalization (PH)
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<blockquote data-quote="TheWalrus" data-source="post: 684016" data-attributes="member: 19905"><p>I know how it feels to be cornered and caught off guard with a request you aren't comfortable with. I would say that most of us on here have had that happen more than once. </p><p></p><p>One thing I have learned is not to be startled into a knee jerk reaction or feel I have to give an immediate answer. Often, because of the instability in her life, other things happen before the request would come to fruition. </p><p></p><p>If this were me, I would respond, "I am so proud of the steps you are taking. You need to focus on right now, one day at a time. Now isn't the time to worry about six months from now. Focus on today." That gives you time to step back and reflect on what you and your husband is comfortable with without saying anything that makes him feel you don't believe in him or give him a reason to get angry with you. Keep putting the ball back in his court. </p><p></p><p>That one thing, learning I don't have to respond one way or the other right this second, has helped me numerous times and prevented many fights. And by the time he gets closer to that six month mark, you can judge his sincerity and commitment as well as know what you are willing to do. My bet is something else will come along and it will never be an issue, but he won't be able to throw in your face that you wouldn't help him or let him in your home.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TheWalrus, post: 684016, member: 19905"] I know how it feels to be cornered and caught off guard with a request you aren't comfortable with. I would say that most of us on here have had that happen more than once. One thing I have learned is not to be startled into a knee jerk reaction or feel I have to give an immediate answer. Often, because of the instability in her life, other things happen before the request would come to fruition. If this were me, I would respond, "I am so proud of the steps you are taking. You need to focus on right now, one day at a time. Now isn't the time to worry about six months from now. Focus on today." That gives you time to step back and reflect on what you and your husband is comfortable with without saying anything that makes him feel you don't believe in him or give him a reason to get angry with you. Keep putting the ball back in his court. That one thing, learning I don't have to respond one way or the other right this second, has helped me numerous times and prevented many fights. And by the time he gets closer to that six month mark, you can judge his sincerity and commitment as well as know what you are willing to do. My bet is something else will come along and it will never be an issue, but he won't be able to throw in your face that you wouldn't help him or let him in your home. [/QUOTE]
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