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son is in partial hospitalization (PH)
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<blockquote data-quote="Echolette" data-source="post: 684194" data-attributes="member: 17269"><p>You definitely do not have to respond immediately to a highly impactful question like that! Its OK to say you need time to process it and you'll get back to him. If you KNOW you won't let him live with you (which I think is totally fine and appropriate, by the way), it is also OK to say, at a time when you are prepared to say it...we love you, we are proud of your efforts, but you can't live with us anymore. It just doesn't work for us.</p><p></p><p>Just the other day the rehab director for the program my son is going to (from jail) said, regarding discharge planning, "I assume there is no possibility he can live with you" and I felt the old guilt and shame rising up as I prepared to say no. I did say no, and he said thats fine, I totally understand, I'm just checking. </p><p></p><p>We are very programmed as mothers to be ever forgiving, ever bending, ever giving. It isn't real. </p><p></p><p>You've gotten good advice and reflection here. I hope that it helps you do what is best for you and your family.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Echolette, post: 684194, member: 17269"] You definitely do not have to respond immediately to a highly impactful question like that! Its OK to say you need time to process it and you'll get back to him. If you KNOW you won't let him live with you (which I think is totally fine and appropriate, by the way), it is also OK to say, at a time when you are prepared to say it...we love you, we are proud of your efforts, but you can't live with us anymore. It just doesn't work for us. Just the other day the rehab director for the program my son is going to (from jail) said, regarding discharge planning, "I assume there is no possibility he can live with you" and I felt the old guilt and shame rising up as I prepared to say no. I did say no, and he said thats fine, I totally understand, I'm just checking. We are very programmed as mothers to be ever forgiving, ever bending, ever giving. It isn't real. You've gotten good advice and reflection here. I hope that it helps you do what is best for you and your family. [/QUOTE]
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