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<blockquote data-quote="RN0441" data-source="post: 761130" data-attributes="member: 15032"><p>Ladies</p><p></p><p>So sorry that you are hurting but jail isn't always the worst place for them.</p><p></p><p>Sometimes that is their rock bottom or at least it's an unpleasant experience as a result of their bad behaviors. They NEED to be uncomfortable to realize what addiction is doing to their lives. The more uncomfortable the better. </p><p></p><p>It's hard for us as mothers to "let that happen" because it's not in our nature, BUT you must do this. I had to do it too and it was very hard BUT it helped get my son to where he needed to be. Sick and tired of his lifestyle. HE has to feel that, NOT you. You feeling that way doesn't do a thing for them.</p><p></p><p>I probably would NOT give your son money "on his account". Do you want him to be comfortable? I would not think that would be good. He hasn't done anything to show you he is ready to change so why do anything to support his lifestyle? Sounds mean? No, this is detaching with love. You have to learn a new way to parent. It's not easy but it can be done.</p><p></p><p>Good luck and keep us posted.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RN0441, post: 761130, member: 15032"] Ladies So sorry that you are hurting but jail isn't always the worst place for them. Sometimes that is their rock bottom or at least it's an unpleasant experience as a result of their bad behaviors. They NEED to be uncomfortable to realize what addiction is doing to their lives. The more uncomfortable the better. It's hard for us as mothers to "let that happen" because it's not in our nature, BUT you must do this. I had to do it too and it was very hard BUT it helped get my son to where he needed to be. Sick and tired of his lifestyle. HE has to feel that, NOT you. You feeling that way doesn't do a thing for them. I probably would NOT give your son money "on his account". Do you want him to be comfortable? I would not think that would be good. He hasn't done anything to show you he is ready to change so why do anything to support his lifestyle? Sounds mean? No, this is detaching with love. You have to learn a new way to parent. It's not easy but it can be done. Good luck and keep us posted. [/QUOTE]
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