ColleenB
Active Member
The doorbell rings at 7am and its oldest son.... he doesn't have a key.
He says he is trying to stay clean and may want to stay with us for a week. According to him, he has been drinking on weekends and it's getting out of control. Of course I knew he was using something.... I asked if he was using drugs also and he said he does when drinking.
I asked if he wants to go to detox again. He said maybe. He asked if he could stay here a week. I didn't say no, instead told him I will not be his jailer, and if he needs detox, let's call and see if they have any open beds.
We talked at length about what he wants in life. He says he really wants the art school... but I think he is nervous. Which is understandable.... he has gone to school four out of the last five years and failed all but the first one. He drops out usually by week four. Why would this be different?
I am hoping this is his turnaround but it's hard to be optimistic if he is using. He needs to make sure that is being addressed. Addcition is not something to take lightly....I know this. I also sense he really doesn't want to be using anymore.
He came by at supper last night and stayed until 230am and then was back at our house at 7am. I could tell he hasn't been using and he said he is trying not to.
I did stress I'm not willing to be his jailer and if he wants to stay sober he has to do it. I don't mind helping him plan or talking but I can't be responsible. He said again he may stay here but I told him he used here all the time, how is it different?
He is sitting here now watching tv and my heart is in my throat. He has been more like his old self. We had a really nice evening last night talking and watching shows we both enjoy- last night with John Oliver, and GOT. He is such a smart guy and could be so successful but he has an addiction and I am not able to help him with that. I know this now.
He wants so badly to be a better person, I know this. I want him to be a better person, a happier person. He hates the the person he has become.
Sigh.... I told him tackle one goal at a time. Call the college this am and make sure he is all registered for fall, then call detox. He is still wanting to stay here but I will try to persuade him to go back to detox.
Wish me luck
He says he is trying to stay clean and may want to stay with us for a week. According to him, he has been drinking on weekends and it's getting out of control. Of course I knew he was using something.... I asked if he was using drugs also and he said he does when drinking.
I asked if he wants to go to detox again. He said maybe. He asked if he could stay here a week. I didn't say no, instead told him I will not be his jailer, and if he needs detox, let's call and see if they have any open beds.
We talked at length about what he wants in life. He says he really wants the art school... but I think he is nervous. Which is understandable.... he has gone to school four out of the last five years and failed all but the first one. He drops out usually by week four. Why would this be different?
I am hoping this is his turnaround but it's hard to be optimistic if he is using. He needs to make sure that is being addressed. Addcition is not something to take lightly....I know this. I also sense he really doesn't want to be using anymore.
He came by at supper last night and stayed until 230am and then was back at our house at 7am. I could tell he hasn't been using and he said he is trying not to.
I did stress I'm not willing to be his jailer and if he wants to stay sober he has to do it. I don't mind helping him plan or talking but I can't be responsible. He said again he may stay here but I told him he used here all the time, how is it different?
He is sitting here now watching tv and my heart is in my throat. He has been more like his old self. We had a really nice evening last night talking and watching shows we both enjoy- last night with John Oliver, and GOT. He is such a smart guy and could be so successful but he has an addiction and I am not able to help him with that. I know this now.
He wants so badly to be a better person, I know this. I want him to be a better person, a happier person. He hates the the person he has become.
Sigh.... I told him tackle one goal at a time. Call the college this am and make sure he is all registered for fall, then call detox. He is still wanting to stay here but I will try to persuade him to go back to detox.
Wish me luck