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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 676391" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Good morning Pennyfromtheblock, and welcome back.</p><p></p><p>Your story, especially the part about the girlfriend, is so similar to my son's story. His ex-girlfriend is violent as well, stabbed him, has attacked him several times and torn up his place, etc. Finally, it appears they are completely finished. One thing my son has never been is violent toward anybody. </p><p></p><p>But as yet, there is no baby. I can only imagine how hard it is to set limits when there is a precious baby involved. </p><p></p><p>You are doing the best that you can for right now. I so understand why you have decided to let him stay with you for a short while. </p><p></p><p>Just take it one day at a time. See how it goes. If it starts to go sideways, give him a few days to make other arrangements. </p><p></p><p>You deserve to live in peace. That is the bottom line. If he causes turmoil, he can't stay there. Sometimes it gets very clear and very simple, and that is good for us.</p><p></p><p>It's not up to you to figure out where he goes next. It is up to HIM, a grown man with a baby of his own, to figure that out. He needs to start making those plans right now, given the limits you have set. If he causes trouble and doesn't keep to your house rules, the move-out will be sooner.</p><p></p><p>Hang in there and use this forum as a sounding board while you are in this period of time. I know that just the thought of my son staying here for a few days while recuperating from surgery was very stressful for me. I really love him but I don't want to live with him for any amount of time.</p><p></p><p>We get it. We care. Hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 676391, member: 17542"] Good morning Pennyfromtheblock, and welcome back. Your story, especially the part about the girlfriend, is so similar to my son's story. His ex-girlfriend is violent as well, stabbed him, has attacked him several times and torn up his place, etc. Finally, it appears they are completely finished. One thing my son has never been is violent toward anybody. But as yet, there is no baby. I can only imagine how hard it is to set limits when there is a precious baby involved. You are doing the best that you can for right now. I so understand why you have decided to let him stay with you for a short while. Just take it one day at a time. See how it goes. If it starts to go sideways, give him a few days to make other arrangements. You deserve to live in peace. That is the bottom line. If he causes turmoil, he can't stay there. Sometimes it gets very clear and very simple, and that is good for us. It's not up to you to figure out where he goes next. It is up to HIM, a grown man with a baby of his own, to figure that out. He needs to start making those plans right now, given the limits you have set. If he causes trouble and doesn't keep to your house rules, the move-out will be sooner. Hang in there and use this forum as a sounding board while you are in this period of time. I know that just the thought of my son staying here for a few days while recuperating from surgery was very stressful for me. I really love him but I don't want to live with him for any amount of time. We get it. We care. Hugs. [/QUOTE]
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