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<blockquote data-quote="Deni D" data-source="post: 761813" data-attributes="member: 22840"><p>Aracia, so sorry to read about this but it's on him. We both know a landlord would most likely not make these things up to make trouble for themselves so yeah it's good you stayed out of it. </p><p></p><p></p><p>Any mention of suicide is over our heads, full stop. I have called the mental health hot line a few times when my son has said and then later implied the same to me, he has been both admitted to the hospital and left alone at other times by them, but I let them decide. I know it could cause him to not say it outload in the future to me but no matter it's not something I can handle from anyone, my son knows this by now and knows it's very serious to me. I would call the hotline and tell them what he messaged you, they will call him and send the crises unit to him if they determine it's needed. </p><p></p><p>I think your email to him was spot on, good job! I know of the worry, the taking on of their failure to step up to life within yourself as if somehow you are responsible for it, but we both know you are not. If you were, well then you would have been able to make it different for him. He's blown it, again, him, not his upbringing, not you, him. You can only control you, not him, not anyone else. He's a grown man who knows he's messed up and is doing the lightning speed head spinning drill of looking for someone outside of himself to blame for what he's done and take on his blowing it. </p><p></p><p>I wish going away for a week would help you, would it? If so I think it would be a good idea. I don't understand what you said about leaving your husband there by himself. Maybe he should go with you?</p><p></p><p>Regardless of anything you decide to do "Let go and let God" seems to me is where you are at. I'm not a particularly religious person but I've found these are the times to let Jesus take the wheel.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Deni D, post: 761813, member: 22840"] Aracia, so sorry to read about this but it's on him. We both know a landlord would most likely not make these things up to make trouble for themselves so yeah it's good you stayed out of it. Any mention of suicide is over our heads, full stop. I have called the mental health hot line a few times when my son has said and then later implied the same to me, he has been both admitted to the hospital and left alone at other times by them, but I let them decide. I know it could cause him to not say it outload in the future to me but no matter it's not something I can handle from anyone, my son knows this by now and knows it's very serious to me. I would call the hotline and tell them what he messaged you, they will call him and send the crises unit to him if they determine it's needed. I think your email to him was spot on, good job! I know of the worry, the taking on of their failure to step up to life within yourself as if somehow you are responsible for it, but we both know you are not. If you were, well then you would have been able to make it different for him. He's blown it, again, him, not his upbringing, not you, him. You can only control you, not him, not anyone else. He's a grown man who knows he's messed up and is doing the lightning speed head spinning drill of looking for someone outside of himself to blame for what he's done and take on his blowing it. I wish going away for a week would help you, would it? If so I think it would be a good idea. I don't understand what you said about leaving your husband there by himself. Maybe he should go with you? Regardless of anything you decide to do "Let go and let God" seems to me is where you are at. I'm not a particularly religious person but I've found these are the times to let Jesus take the wheel. [/QUOTE]
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