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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 760406" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Good Morning Helpless. Based upon my experience, he ruined a good thing because of who he is right now. He's either oblivious or uncaring of how he affects others, irresponsible and doesn't think past this minute, right now, to what the consequences will be f what he does.</p><p></p><p>My experience also is that my son doesn't tell me the details of his life, unless he wants to manipulate me with them. Either to punish me or to try to extract something. Other than that he plays things close to the chest. I agree with the others the ONLY course of action open to you is to stay focused on your own well-being, and that of your young family, because this is where you have control.</p><p></p><p>However difficult it is we have to learn to get out of their business and to not base our own well-being and peace of mind on our fears. This has been the very hardest thing for me, too. There are good things happening for your son. He has the job. He has this friend. He lands on his feet. He always seems to get new jobs quickly. He seems self-sufficient.</p><p></p><p>For some reason we keep looking to our sons to feel better in ourselves. Based on my own experience, it never, ever works.</p><p></p><p>Congratulations on the house!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 760406, member: 18958"] Good Morning Helpless. Based upon my experience, he ruined a good thing because of who he is right now. He's either oblivious or uncaring of how he affects others, irresponsible and doesn't think past this minute, right now, to what the consequences will be f what he does. My experience also is that my son doesn't tell me the details of his life, unless he wants to manipulate me with them. Either to punish me or to try to extract something. Other than that he plays things close to the chest. I agree with the others the ONLY course of action open to you is to stay focused on your own well-being, and that of your young family, because this is where you have control. However difficult it is we have to learn to get out of their business and to not base our own well-being and peace of mind on our fears. This has been the very hardest thing for me, too. There are good things happening for your son. He has the job. He has this friend. He lands on his feet. He always seems to get new jobs quickly. He seems self-sufficient. For some reason we keep looking to our sons to feel better in ourselves. Based on my own experience, it never, ever works. Congratulations on the house! [/QUOTE]
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