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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 635187" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>If you keep bailing him out, what point is there for him to change? He's nearing thirty. He's still living with you. He is unemployed. He's using heroin. My advice, which is just my opinion, is that bail him out if you think it's going to be the best decision. You've probably done it before and he's still getting into trouble and not yet clean. </p><p></p><p>I'm not as nice as you, although at one time I was Doormat for Everyone. Not anymore. in my opinion (again just my opinion) daughter in law can go live elsewhere. She isn't even married to your son anymore, right? I would probably offer to keep the kids until she could get on her feet, but I wouldn't let her live with me. Yes, at one time I would have, but I've learned that it usually ends up being lose/lose (you lose, they lose). Don't be shocked if some of your things are missing when they check out. Not saying it will happen for sure, but it could. </p><p></p><p>You are in a tough spot. And it is always hard to make a decision that is different. I wish you luck and peace. Just think hard about what you are going to do...take you and your husband into consideration too. You need money to live on and to retire on. You could easily spend every dime you have and, in the end, your son is not going to support you if you beggar yourself to rescue him...again, all this is just my opinion. Not everyone agrees with me, I'm sure.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 635187, member: 1550"] If you keep bailing him out, what point is there for him to change? He's nearing thirty. He's still living with you. He is unemployed. He's using heroin. My advice, which is just my opinion, is that bail him out if you think it's going to be the best decision. You've probably done it before and he's still getting into trouble and not yet clean. I'm not as nice as you, although at one time I was Doormat for Everyone. Not anymore. in my opinion (again just my opinion) daughter in law can go live elsewhere. She isn't even married to your son anymore, right? I would probably offer to keep the kids until she could get on her feet, but I wouldn't let her live with me. Yes, at one time I would have, but I've learned that it usually ends up being lose/lose (you lose, they lose). Don't be shocked if some of your things are missing when they check out. Not saying it will happen for sure, but it could. You are in a tough spot. And it is always hard to make a decision that is different. I wish you luck and peace. Just think hard about what you are going to do...take you and your husband into consideration too. You need money to live on and to retire on. You could easily spend every dime you have and, in the end, your son is not going to support you if you beggar yourself to rescue him...again, all this is just my opinion. Not everyone agrees with me, I'm sure. [/QUOTE]
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