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<blockquote data-quote="Origami" data-source="post: 635202" data-attributes="member: 18099"><p>Thanks for the replies, everyone. It is comforting to hear from people who are in similar, though unfortunate, situations.</p><p></p><p>To answer some questions, daughter in law and son are still married technically, although they announced plans to divorce back in November. This was never pursued because of lack of money for court, etc. Now daughter in law says they "might" get back together but she's not sure and doesn't really trust difficult child. He's been clean since the house arrest in early April since hasn't had access to money or drugs except for once when he smoked pot with daughter in law on our back porch (which I found out afterward from other son). daughter in law is afraid this might be an artificial "clean" based on lack of access. I told her I think there's no way to know this until we see what happens whenever he's free again. In all conversations with him, he has assured us that he's done with the drugs and court system, never wants to go back to that lifestyle, etc. Of course I want to believe him. </p><p></p><p>He was able to call daughter in law from jail yesterday and asked her to please try to post bond. He said the judge was mad that he was 10 minutes late to court, and he reminded her that he'd been on time the other three times but the bus was running late. He thinks he will be there until January unless bond is posted because the judge is basing her decision for a court-appointed attorney on his income from last year, which was $50,000+. Yes, he stupidly got fired from a very good job considering he doesn't have a college degree and had worked his way up diligently to a good position. So until the year is up showing little income for this year, he will be detained with no public defender, according to him. We live in Cook County, IL and apparently normal court rules don't apply here.</p><p></p><p>So daughter in law is considering taking out a payday loan to gather the bail money. I told her I will contribute a small amount. She talked to some attorneys yesterday who all advised that he needs representation to avoid being sent to the state prison. He has two prior felony convictions for theft three years ago that he got probation for, which has since been satisfied. These attorney fees start at $4500, which of course seems unattainable by anyone involved at this point. daughter in law wants him out so he can get a job and continue helping her with the kids. She said he needs the attorney by Wednesday, his next scheduled court appearance. I can't see this happening unless somebody wins the lottery. My oldest son has the means, but I don't know if it's fair to even ask him for help. He disapproves of their lifestyle in general and hasn't been shy about saying so.</p><p></p><p>I'm going to ask my friend who knows a lot of attorneys for advice. I'm going to contribute a small amount toward the bail. And I think that's as far as I will go with help right now. daughter in law and kids are still at our place, we're helping keep the kids as we're available, and her family is also helping with getting the kids to and from school.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Origami, post: 635202, member: 18099"] Thanks for the replies, everyone. It is comforting to hear from people who are in similar, though unfortunate, situations. To answer some questions, daughter in law and son are still married technically, although they announced plans to divorce back in November. This was never pursued because of lack of money for court, etc. Now daughter in law says they "might" get back together but she's not sure and doesn't really trust difficult child. He's been clean since the house arrest in early April since hasn't had access to money or drugs except for once when he smoked pot with daughter in law on our back porch (which I found out afterward from other son). daughter in law is afraid this might be an artificial "clean" based on lack of access. I told her I think there's no way to know this until we see what happens whenever he's free again. In all conversations with him, he has assured us that he's done with the drugs and court system, never wants to go back to that lifestyle, etc. Of course I want to believe him. He was able to call daughter in law from jail yesterday and asked her to please try to post bond. He said the judge was mad that he was 10 minutes late to court, and he reminded her that he'd been on time the other three times but the bus was running late. He thinks he will be there until January unless bond is posted because the judge is basing her decision for a court-appointed attorney on his income from last year, which was $50,000+. Yes, he stupidly got fired from a very good job considering he doesn't have a college degree and had worked his way up diligently to a good position. So until the year is up showing little income for this year, he will be detained with no public defender, according to him. We live in Cook County, IL and apparently normal court rules don't apply here. So daughter in law is considering taking out a payday loan to gather the bail money. I told her I will contribute a small amount. She talked to some attorneys yesterday who all advised that he needs representation to avoid being sent to the state prison. He has two prior felony convictions for theft three years ago that he got probation for, which has since been satisfied. These attorney fees start at $4500, which of course seems unattainable by anyone involved at this point. daughter in law wants him out so he can get a job and continue helping her with the kids. She said he needs the attorney by Wednesday, his next scheduled court appearance. I can't see this happening unless somebody wins the lottery. My oldest son has the means, but I don't know if it's fair to even ask him for help. He disapproves of their lifestyle in general and hasn't been shy about saying so. I'm going to ask my friend who knows a lot of attorneys for advice. I'm going to contribute a small amount toward the bail. And I think that's as far as I will go with help right now. daughter in law and kids are still at our place, we're helping keep the kids as we're available, and her family is also helping with getting the kids to and from school. [/QUOTE]
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