BusynMember
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First of all, Sonic found a small apartment he likes in a nice building. The apartment's lady who runs the building lives there too and is kind, caring and loved Sonic as soon as she met him. We can put her down in Sonic's cell phone as an emergency contact. There is also a worker from his place of employment who lives there and he knows him. We will only live four minutes away (I timed it) once we move in August. The only reason we did not pick the same apartment complex is that ours allows pets and his doesn't and he doesn't care for noise so pets was out for him. I am so nervous. He is so excited. I get to therapeutically thumb my nose at all those early psychologists who said he would never be independent at all and would need to live in a group home when he is an adult. Not only will he have his own place that he pays for out his wages and social security, but HE HAS A REAL LIFE PART-TIME JOB! The things he needs help with are mostly that he is very vulnerable and easy to victimize and would need an outsider in an emergency to help direct him if his brain froze and he couldn't think due to stress. He will have a list of people on his refrigerator. He is very high functioning and the apartment building has a reputation as quiet, mostly older folks, no police visits because of rowdy young kids, etc. Yet I'm going to cry when I leave that first time. I know I am. I'll still be driving him to work when I go to work, taking him shopping, talking to him every day I'm sure. Oh, my!!!! It happened so fast.
Julie is due July 6th, meaning at any time. As soon as I hear she has gone to the hospital, I am jumping in my van and driving to Chicago to see the baby. Then I come home right away and wait until Geoff goes back to work after a three week leave from work and I will stay there for a little while to help my daughter and get to know Kaili (her name is Kylie, but this is how my creative, eccentric daughter wants to spell it...lol). I think it looks like Kaylee, but who cares?????
Jumper is having a big graduation party. One of her best friends and her kind single father have an inground pool and offered her her house for her party. That works for me. It is much bigger with more to do than our rental house. Jumper is inviting the entire world, it seems. This is a big kindness as a rental hall would have cost us a lot that we don't have and all of her friends love going to this house. Now we are just springing for food and drinks and paying the father, who won't want to take any money, for use of his house. But we are going to insist he take SOMETHING.
We move Aug. 4th. We have to drive Jumper to college on August 6th. That is her first volleyball practice. She'll get to know some of the girls before school starts. It's good for her, socks for me. I know I'll cry and cry and cry.
I have been fighting my normal on again/off again depression. Yesterday I decided to get rid of the depression and did an exhausting two hour workout at the gym. When I got home, I look like I'd been caught in the rain and had to shower for a long time before I felt I smelled ok...lol. But it didn't lift the mild depression that has been dogging me.
I am not dealing with all of this well. It is going by too fast. It is happening in a whirlpool. Husband does not understand why I am so emotional. He is such a laid back guy. Nothing gets to him.
On top of that, 36 has another one of his crises. He let a girl move in who is very nice but mentally ill and not always stable and he wants to talk to me about it nonstop. He doesn't know what to do. Well, I don't know what he should do either!!! I told him I'd be very busy until Sept. a nd it's hit or miss if he can reach me by phone. And you know what? I wasn't just making excuses. It's true!!!!
I hope I can get used to all these changes. Any suggestions are appreciated. But this was mostly a vent. I'm grateful I have a place to vent.
Julie is due July 6th, meaning at any time. As soon as I hear she has gone to the hospital, I am jumping in my van and driving to Chicago to see the baby. Then I come home right away and wait until Geoff goes back to work after a three week leave from work and I will stay there for a little while to help my daughter and get to know Kaili (her name is Kylie, but this is how my creative, eccentric daughter wants to spell it...lol). I think it looks like Kaylee, but who cares?????
Jumper is having a big graduation party. One of her best friends and her kind single father have an inground pool and offered her her house for her party. That works for me. It is much bigger with more to do than our rental house. Jumper is inviting the entire world, it seems. This is a big kindness as a rental hall would have cost us a lot that we don't have and all of her friends love going to this house. Now we are just springing for food and drinks and paying the father, who won't want to take any money, for use of his house. But we are going to insist he take SOMETHING.
We move Aug. 4th. We have to drive Jumper to college on August 6th. That is her first volleyball practice. She'll get to know some of the girls before school starts. It's good for her, socks for me. I know I'll cry and cry and cry.
I have been fighting my normal on again/off again depression. Yesterday I decided to get rid of the depression and did an exhausting two hour workout at the gym. When I got home, I look like I'd been caught in the rain and had to shower for a long time before I felt I smelled ok...lol. But it didn't lift the mild depression that has been dogging me.
I am not dealing with all of this well. It is going by too fast. It is happening in a whirlpool. Husband does not understand why I am so emotional. He is such a laid back guy. Nothing gets to him.
On top of that, 36 has another one of his crises. He let a girl move in who is very nice but mentally ill and not always stable and he wants to talk to me about it nonstop. He doesn't know what to do. Well, I don't know what he should do either!!! I told him I'd be very busy until Sept. a nd it's hit or miss if he can reach me by phone. And you know what? I wasn't just making excuses. It's true!!!!
I hope I can get used to all these changes. Any suggestions are appreciated. But this was mostly a vent. I'm grateful I have a place to vent.