Not all mothers love them without reservation. Many love them but let their outcomes go. And some mothers are able to admit who their adult children are, even though its painful.
I love my oldest son. I know he can be unkind and extremely into himself and also know he is smart enough to know that this is why his siblings dont have anything to do with him. I dont feel sorry for him. He abused them and me and with that behavior, plus his inability to acknowledge this and to apologize, has caused his own estrangement.
I understand.
You cant be an adult, treat people badly, and still get their unconditional love.i do love my son, but it is his fault that nobody else wants to be around him. He would have to change a lot for that to happen.
I am there for my son as long as he is not abusive but have no problem putting him on furlough if he is. He has not been as abusive since I stopped putting up with his abuse.
I think we all react differently. I tend to put a high value on my other kids who are kind and caring, things I consider very important. If my kids ended up in prison, for me that would not mean I had to support him, especially if he or she harmed innocent bystanders. Not saying its wrong to support your son. Just saying I dont think I would. Forgive, yes. Pray for, yes. Feel sorry for....no. i would feel terrible for the victims of my adult child. If my kid did a crime only to himself, I would be far more sympathetic. But I value compassion for others too much to not be appalled that my own kid could harm another, steal, hit, assault, sell heroin to, etc.