I joined this forum when my 33 yo difficult child was involved with another difficult child and driving me to the brink of insanity. I had to call the police to stop her harassment, and after several money cons and hacking into my computer I had enough. My son went from their drunken, drug induced fights which landed one or the other in jail, then detox, to her and her mother putting all of his possessions out on the street in the rain, they were all stolen. Living on the streets homeless in CO. Threatening suicide if I did not give him money, he also cuts himself. So I learned to detach, hard to do, but required for my sanity. My son's girlfriend (in my opinion) just liked to fight, not work, stay stoned all day, and send me nasty messages because I stopped the money flow. I stopped posting on the forum 'cause it was just the same ole same ole. I did not hear from my son for over three years, he is sending me messages again, but I have not physically seen him for about 5 years. He was homeless after one of their fights the end of 2015 and I just advised him to go to a shelter. Hard for a parent to do! The girlfriend's mother blames my son and I can understand her wanting better for her daughter. The difficult child is 40 yo and doesn't work, still lives at home, senior mother works and pays the bills and bought daughter a car, the difficult child daughter thinks I should do the same. The female difficult child's sister was an alcoholic and died last July, my son text me that the difficult child was found dead Monday morning. He is in a state of shock, they had spent the weekend together. The mother will not return his calls and he found out about the death when a detective called and just said, 'she is dead' I felt so sorry for him. He says she is his soul mate and he will never get over her. He may be right. They have been together for 7 tumultuous years and both have served jail time for their fights, I was always afraid they were going to kill each other. They were poison together! She was possessive and controlling and, in my opinion, just pure evil. He's no saint. I suspect drugs were involved. The mother is not allowing him to attend the funeral. My heart breaks for him, he has had a hard life, the majority of it he has created. If the tables were turned, I would allow her to come to the funeral, just for closure. I do feel for the mother, losing two children in 9 months time is unbearable. He has a job and I am hoping this horrible event will steer his life in a new direction, for the better. He needs dental work really bad, but I'm afraid if I offer he will start the 'give me money' all over again. Prayers for all of us that our children may one day see the light, blessings.