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<blockquote data-quote="Tiredof33" data-source="post: 685684" data-attributes="member: 13558"><p>Thank you all for your support. The death was suicide, something that is so hard to understand. My friend's 16yo grand, very good student, very pretty, involved in sports and music, no apparent mental problems, committed suicide Christmas. We never really know what torments a person.</p><p></p><p>The mother softened her heart and reached out to my son yesterday to help plan the funeral, I think it will help them both heal. I'm sure the mother is in shock, I know I would be. The mother is extremely religious (and a good person) my son and girlfriend were attending them same church. It's so strange to me that they can have drug and alcohol binges, be arrested for trying to kill each other and attend church regularly. I'm not judging, just puzzled.</p><p></p><p>This girlfriend was truly the most bi-polar individual I have ever met. She was officially diagnosed, but chose to self medicate. The older sister was only about a year older and she died from liver disease cause by alcoholism. They were very close and I am sure the sister was girlfriend's anchor. She was lost without her. These individuals suffer so much.</p><p></p><p>I will never backslide into enabling. This was a point of contention between the mother (and most of girlfriend's family) and I. The mother was still supporting the 40yo and she lived at home for the most part. Bought her a car etc., that she really could not afford while girlfriend and my son spent most of their money on concerts. Selling drugs was lucrative until they were caught for mailing it from CO. He was really lucky, just probation, but they did decide it was a bad idea after that. They look for the easy way.</p><p></p><p>girlfriend', mother, her family felt I had turned my back on my son because I stopped the money flow. Some members of my own family do too. girlfriend loved to send me nasty messages about how I was going to hell for hating my son so much. Money equates love. I don't think the enabling killed the daughter, but it did leave her too much free time and no responsibilities. girlfriend and my son posted on social media and told friends (the few they had left) that he had no family, just girlfriend. Again, not judging, but it hurt.</p><p></p><p>These individuals with mental illness are truly tortured souls.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tiredof33, post: 685684, member: 13558"] Thank you all for your support. The death was suicide, something that is so hard to understand. My friend's 16yo grand, very good student, very pretty, involved in sports and music, no apparent mental problems, committed suicide Christmas. We never really know what torments a person. The mother softened her heart and reached out to my son yesterday to help plan the funeral, I think it will help them both heal. I'm sure the mother is in shock, I know I would be. The mother is extremely religious (and a good person) my son and girlfriend were attending them same church. It's so strange to me that they can have drug and alcohol binges, be arrested for trying to kill each other and attend church regularly. I'm not judging, just puzzled. This girlfriend was truly the most bi-polar individual I have ever met. She was officially diagnosed, but chose to self medicate. The older sister was only about a year older and she died from liver disease cause by alcoholism. They were very close and I am sure the sister was girlfriend's anchor. She was lost without her. These individuals suffer so much. I will never backslide into enabling. This was a point of contention between the mother (and most of girlfriend's family) and I. The mother was still supporting the 40yo and she lived at home for the most part. Bought her a car etc., that she really could not afford while girlfriend and my son spent most of their money on concerts. Selling drugs was lucrative until they were caught for mailing it from CO. He was really lucky, just probation, but they did decide it was a bad idea after that. They look for the easy way. girlfriend', mother, her family felt I had turned my back on my son because I stopped the money flow. Some members of my own family do too. girlfriend loved to send me nasty messages about how I was going to hell for hating my son so much. Money equates love. I don't think the enabling killed the daughter, but it did leave her too much free time and no responsibilities. girlfriend and my son posted on social media and told friends (the few they had left) that he had no family, just girlfriend. Again, not judging, but it hurt. These individuals with mental illness are truly tortured souls. [/QUOTE]
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