difficult child has a girlfriend. She doesn't drink or do drugs or hang out with anyone who does (THATS a lot of pressure off him). She is really involved in her church. But her friends don't like him. Told her he is a jerk. I told him to prove them wrong. Be nice to all her friends, because they are important to her. He is in such happy spirits. But school, homework, catch-up work...all causing SO many problems here on the home front. Can't even begin to tell. Has anyone's difficult child ever been on Paxil? I know it says not for children or adolesence, but so do a lot. The medication seems to target EVERY one of difficult child's issues. He is currently taking Lexapro, but see little improvement. He says the adderall helps him (any one with Ritalin in really has a bad affect on difficult child...horrible affect) But although he says Adderall helps, it puts him to sleep. Dr. said it CAN have that affect on some kids. So to me, how can it help when he puts his head down and sleeps??? I wanted him to try vyvanse or some other without Ritalin, but he said no because it is to new of a drug. (he looks everything up and with his anxieties - would be too worried) He doesn't take Adderall when there is not school and hasn't taken it with school this week. He has been helping one of the teachers. She caters, and has had him help her cater the Prom, awards banquet, this week another banquet at the local college at 5:45 AM, then she brought him to school. He missed first block but she had him excused. He helps her cook and set up, serve and clean up. Several other events too. They get along fantastic. She is also the Dean at the school. He talks to her and opens up. She is tutoring him after school too. Not for the tutoring part, but she gets him to do his homework. I can't, that is a fight. He doesn't need the academic help, just needs someone to get him to do his work and she seems to be able to do this. She told me difficult child does a lot of helping at school. Sometimes he choses to eat lunch with her. She told me that the principal is going to give him a $50 gift certificate for all his help. He will be awarded with this Monday at an awards assembly. He does not know. So, all and all - through all the fighting, the kids doing drugs, homework, telling me how he hates this school because it is hard and small. It is a college prep school so it IS harder...he has come a long way. From getting referrals every other day in the fall, to being "student of the month - most improved" in the entire school, to helping at school and now getting an award...AND he WANTS to go there next year too. Still wants to take one class at the local district school, which is OK. So not too much longer of school and my baby will be a sophomore. Hoping he can finish with a B average. He still has the feeling he is "outside" his body. Still having frequent anxiety attacks, but he is handling them better. He is worried that feeling won't ever go away. Dr. said derealization / depersonilzation - will go away, but may come and go his entire life. He says he is confused and often doesn't feel he knows what is happening, like a dream. But he is handling it well. You would never know if he didn't tell you. Our relationship is awful. Our entire house is awful.