KFld
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He just doesn't get it ever!!!! Poor easy child was crying hysterically on the phone with him last night.
My grandmother left both my children a nice sum of money that at times I wish she never had. At the age of 18 all the grandchildren are made aware of it. I was able to work with the probate judge these past 2 years so my difficult child is not aware of his yet thank god, but probably will be this spring.
Any who, easy child knows where she's going to school and exactly how much it's going to cost, plus she wants to invest the rest of the money. She has an almost 10 year old car which the transmission just went on and many other things probably will soon, so she decided she wants to use some of the money to get herself a nice car to travel back and forth to school with, as she is going to live home. s2bx is so totally against this and giving her such a hard time, but then of course tries to make me responsible, as always, for his decisions.
Oh and before I forget, when she was at his house the other day he said if she's going to get rid of her car, his girlfriend's daughter will need a car soon. What a way to win your daughters heart. That made her cry too.
So anyway, she calls him last night and asks him if he will go look at a car with her tonight and he tells he no. He doesn't support her spending any of the money on a car and that she should just fix and keep the one she has. She started crying on the phone telling him she can't believe that he won't go look at a car with his own daughter and that she thought it would be something he would want to go do with her. She was hysterical fighting with him. Then get this! he says let me talk to your mother and if she support you buying a car, then I'll go look at it. So he calls me and says he doesn't support her buying a car in any way, but if I support it he'll go look at it. I told him in a way I support it, and in a way I don't, but that his decision of whether to go look at it with her or not is not my responsibility. I said, if you don't support it then don't go and she'll find somebody else to look at it. If you support it, then go. Then he says, oh sure if I don't go then I'm the bad guy as usual!!!! No idiot, your the bad guy because you don't know how to talk to your daughter and be a father to her, all you do is yell at her and make her cry.
So then he gets back on the phone and tells her he'll go with her. Now she's even more upset because she could hear him yelling at me on the phone and trying to make his decision my responsibility.
I have gone through this with him forever. He can't make a decision and take responsibility for it. He needs someone else to blame if it's the wrong one.
So now he's going to pick her up from work tonight, take her to look at a car and then out for pizza like a star father. I wonder if he's bringing Judy along??????? She will flip!!
My grandmother left both my children a nice sum of money that at times I wish she never had. At the age of 18 all the grandchildren are made aware of it. I was able to work with the probate judge these past 2 years so my difficult child is not aware of his yet thank god, but probably will be this spring.
Any who, easy child knows where she's going to school and exactly how much it's going to cost, plus she wants to invest the rest of the money. She has an almost 10 year old car which the transmission just went on and many other things probably will soon, so she decided she wants to use some of the money to get herself a nice car to travel back and forth to school with, as she is going to live home. s2bx is so totally against this and giving her such a hard time, but then of course tries to make me responsible, as always, for his decisions.
Oh and before I forget, when she was at his house the other day he said if she's going to get rid of her car, his girlfriend's daughter will need a car soon. What a way to win your daughters heart. That made her cry too.
So anyway, she calls him last night and asks him if he will go look at a car with her tonight and he tells he no. He doesn't support her spending any of the money on a car and that she should just fix and keep the one she has. She started crying on the phone telling him she can't believe that he won't go look at a car with his own daughter and that she thought it would be something he would want to go do with her. She was hysterical fighting with him. Then get this! he says let me talk to your mother and if she support you buying a car, then I'll go look at it. So he calls me and says he doesn't support her buying a car in any way, but if I support it he'll go look at it. I told him in a way I support it, and in a way I don't, but that his decision of whether to go look at it with her or not is not my responsibility. I said, if you don't support it then don't go and she'll find somebody else to look at it. If you support it, then go. Then he says, oh sure if I don't go then I'm the bad guy as usual!!!! No idiot, your the bad guy because you don't know how to talk to your daughter and be a father to her, all you do is yell at her and make her cry.
So then he gets back on the phone and tells her he'll go with her. Now she's even more upset because she could hear him yelling at me on the phone and trying to make his decision my responsibility.
I have gone through this with him forever. He can't make a decision and take responsibility for it. He needs someone else to blame if it's the wrong one.
So now he's going to pick her up from work tonight, take her to look at a car and then out for pizza like a star father. I wonder if he's bringing Judy along??????? She will flip!!
