My son's crazy ex is trying another ploy to get my son out of grandson's life. She is planning on moving pretty far away,which is significant because they have 50/50. Son has a great lawyer and so far she has none and is defying the court order not to move. In fact she sold her house and is pending a move to a new house. All this was done after she had a court order not to move. Never said she was Einstien, but she does have a lot of female gonads. I am worried about both my son and grandson because if the Judge doesn't go in t heir favor, it will devestate my son beyond explanation and my grandson is very upset, crying often, at the thought of leaving his school and moving farther from Daddy. I was just there. Now my son isn't perfect but he is by far the better more nurturing parent and does not ever try to take his son from his mother's 50/50 custody time. Today is a big day. If ex doesn't answer the letter from Son's attorney today, sh e has defied the court. Again. I wish I didn't care about this or could put it on Opersation Oblivion, but this issn't something I can completely disconnect from. I realize t here is absolutely nothing I can do by worrying. I know that if the court rules against my son, who is seeking residential custody (the address), I can't do squat. I know that if my son falls apart over it, I can't fix him (what he may do scares me, but I still can't fix it). I know that if my grandson is sent where he doesn't want to go and where his stepfather slaps him (no bruises, but it happens), I can't do anything at all. I know I am powerless. Yet my heart is beating a little faster today and it's in the back of my mind even when I try to relax and read. I know I have to stay busy today as it is my day off. I know that I have to take any news with radical acceptance. I know this is out of my hands. Yet is't still going to stay in the back of my mind, no matter how busy I get. Breaks my heart, yet I can't let it destroy me like it w ill destroy my son. I have to stay healthy, sane and strong for myself and everyone else. Haha. It's a lot easier said than done, but I will try to do my best. That's all any of us can do. I so hate drama and this is drama I can only avoid if I avoid my son and I'm not going to refuse to listen to him talk about this. That is my decision...to be there for him in this. It is rocking my serene and peaceful life, but I have to take it, at least for now. I am going to practice w hat I am learning in therapy though. Standing back and mindfully listening without getting too emotionally judging...that is really the best way because...getting all upset will not change anything. And I am going to do something really nice for me today, Sonic has a baseball awards banquent later on, Jumper is still home and, if not working, likes to shop with me, and I can Skype Princess and Buddha Baby. And hug my dogs. I am taught to feel where my tension l ies when I am tense and with me it is the pit of my stomach. I can feel it. I will have to meditate. I will exercise. But this is still very hard. I'm sure you all understand which is why I posted it. Any extra advice welcome.