nvts
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A short, but insane update:
1. difficult child 2 was released from the psychiatric hospital. into the Community Residence. There have been significant bumps in the road, but is still slowly coming along. They had told me that there would be a 2 week period that we wouldn't be allowed to see each other so that he could acclimate, but he manipuled them into letting me come to see him after the first 4 days. I refused to stay more than an hour, but it didn't matter.
2. He went to therapy with his regular therapist this past Tuesday and proceeded to act like a jerk. With the therapists encouragement, I walked out. They caught me at the elevator, difficult child 1 begged me to come back - I agreed with the promise that this would stop. No sooner did we sit down and he started up again. During that particular rant he hit me (punched me in the back). I looked the therapist in the eye and left. He was screaming when I got out the front door. We were on the 3rd floor. I took the stairs so he couldn't trap me at the elevator and re-tore the intersticial tear on my achilles tendon.
3. AH (aka my soon-to-be ex) sent me an email that he was paying his rent check out of our joint account after he had told me the money was mine for the bills. I'm dodging collections calls from the entire free world, so as the calls come in, I go to our accounts and change the contact number from home to his cell. Hahahaha! My one ounce of revenge! Mooohahaha!
4. There was a joint party at my house for difficult child 1, difficult child 2 and their cousin for their birthdays. Lil sis had promised that her sons would be there. Her fiancee told her that her younger son needed to go to football as he had "a commitment to the team" so difficult child 1 took it personally.
5. difficult child 1 was allowed a 3 hour pass for the birthday party, but because of his antics in therapy he had to be escorted. I actually appreciated this, but they showed up an hour late so everything was off schedule.
6. AH was there skulking around but he and my bff motherinlaw were like a couple of drill sargents with difficult child 2 and difficult child 3. Evie, as usual, could do no wrong.
7. difficult child 1 was given another 3 hour pass to trick or treat with us on Sunday and difficult child 2 and difficult child 3 were total toads toward him.
8. Evie has a head cold.
9. My Dad's house is such a mess that Thanksgiving is being held at my house and get this - between 22 and 24 people and everyone is begging me not to invite AH. Truthfully, I don't want him here either, but I know as we get closer to the date, it's going to bug me that someone is alone on Turkey Day. His mother was pretty persnickety about it being here - which honestly kind of ****** me off.
10. My Dad hasn't been feeling well, and I forgot to make an appointment during the summer to have him get a scope done.
11. difficult child 3 was moved to yet another school.
Irish Guilt has got to be the worst!
I'm not even going to say "Calgon take me away" - it's more like "Dewars take me away"!!
I'll be on more often now as things seem to be settling down a little. Trust me - the above is just a snippet of the day to day here!
After typing all of this, I'm actually feeling much better, but I felt I owed you all an explanation for my dreaded "disappearance".
Beth
1. difficult child 2 was released from the psychiatric hospital. into the Community Residence. There have been significant bumps in the road, but is still slowly coming along. They had told me that there would be a 2 week period that we wouldn't be allowed to see each other so that he could acclimate, but he manipuled them into letting me come to see him after the first 4 days. I refused to stay more than an hour, but it didn't matter.
2. He went to therapy with his regular therapist this past Tuesday and proceeded to act like a jerk. With the therapists encouragement, I walked out. They caught me at the elevator, difficult child 1 begged me to come back - I agreed with the promise that this would stop. No sooner did we sit down and he started up again. During that particular rant he hit me (punched me in the back). I looked the therapist in the eye and left. He was screaming when I got out the front door. We were on the 3rd floor. I took the stairs so he couldn't trap me at the elevator and re-tore the intersticial tear on my achilles tendon.
3. AH (aka my soon-to-be ex) sent me an email that he was paying his rent check out of our joint account after he had told me the money was mine for the bills. I'm dodging collections calls from the entire free world, so as the calls come in, I go to our accounts and change the contact number from home to his cell. Hahahaha! My one ounce of revenge! Mooohahaha!
4. There was a joint party at my house for difficult child 1, difficult child 2 and their cousin for their birthdays. Lil sis had promised that her sons would be there. Her fiancee told her that her younger son needed to go to football as he had "a commitment to the team" so difficult child 1 took it personally.
5. difficult child 1 was allowed a 3 hour pass for the birthday party, but because of his antics in therapy he had to be escorted. I actually appreciated this, but they showed up an hour late so everything was off schedule.
6. AH was there skulking around but he and my bff motherinlaw were like a couple of drill sargents with difficult child 2 and difficult child 3. Evie, as usual, could do no wrong.
7. difficult child 1 was given another 3 hour pass to trick or treat with us on Sunday and difficult child 2 and difficult child 3 were total toads toward him.
8. Evie has a head cold.
9. My Dad's house is such a mess that Thanksgiving is being held at my house and get this - between 22 and 24 people and everyone is begging me not to invite AH. Truthfully, I don't want him here either, but I know as we get closer to the date, it's going to bug me that someone is alone on Turkey Day. His mother was pretty persnickety about it being here - which honestly kind of ****** me off.
10. My Dad hasn't been feeling well, and I forgot to make an appointment during the summer to have him get a scope done.
11. difficult child 3 was moved to yet another school.
Irish Guilt has got to be the worst!
I'm not even going to say "Calgon take me away" - it's more like "Dewars take me away"!!
I'll be on more often now as things seem to be settling down a little. Trust me - the above is just a snippet of the day to day here!
After typing all of this, I'm actually feeling much better, but I felt I owed you all an explanation for my dreaded "disappearance".
Beth
