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It has been a pattern that when difficult child spends the night at a friend's, he coes home the next day tired, crabby, and with an upset stomach. I have always attributed it to unhealthy food (we moderate in our house) and not enough sleep (we have a bedtime even on week-ends). That is why I only allow him to sleep over when I am in a "sane", for lack of a better word, place to handle the aftermath.
Last night, difficult child spent the night at a friend's, first one since school started. I sent his pill box with him and told him to take his medications when he was going to go to sleep and then again when he woke up in the morning. So, today when he comes home at 9 am, he looks absolutely wretched. He looks tired, pale, and complains of feeling "pukey". I told him this happens every time he sleeps at a friend's and that we won't be doing that again for a very long time. I told him to go in the other room, leave the lights off, and lay on the couch. I figured it was more of the too much junk food and not enough sleep syndrome. At about 10 am, I looked in on him and he was sound asleep. Three hours after that, he still hadn't moved.
So, he woke up about about an hour ago. He still looks tired but he said he was hungry. As he was getting something to eat, he came up to me and in all seriousness said "I'm sorry. I've been lying to you for a long time now." I curiously asked "about what", thinking that he was lying about feeling sick so he didn't have to go to Sunday School or Church today. Boy was I wrong! He confessed to me that he has never taken any of his medications when he has slept at a friend's. He admitted he has been flushing them so I wouldn't know. He admits that he doesn't like taking them with his friends around, even though he's told me they all know he takes them.
My response was to ask him why he told me this time. His answer was "now I know that when I don't take them, I feel sick." I told him thanks for telling me and then told him that some medications can have even worse things happen if you don't take them. I wanted the lesson to stick so I picked the worse case scenario for stopping some medications abruptly.
I am so proud of him for finally coming forward and I let him know that. Maybe he really IS growing up. He still isn't going to go to a sleepover for quite a long time. hehe
Last night, difficult child spent the night at a friend's, first one since school started. I sent his pill box with him and told him to take his medications when he was going to go to sleep and then again when he woke up in the morning. So, today when he comes home at 9 am, he looks absolutely wretched. He looks tired, pale, and complains of feeling "pukey". I told him this happens every time he sleeps at a friend's and that we won't be doing that again for a very long time. I told him to go in the other room, leave the lights off, and lay on the couch. I figured it was more of the too much junk food and not enough sleep syndrome. At about 10 am, I looked in on him and he was sound asleep. Three hours after that, he still hadn't moved.
So, he woke up about about an hour ago. He still looks tired but he said he was hungry. As he was getting something to eat, he came up to me and in all seriousness said "I'm sorry. I've been lying to you for a long time now." I curiously asked "about what", thinking that he was lying about feeling sick so he didn't have to go to Sunday School or Church today. Boy was I wrong! He confessed to me that he has never taken any of his medications when he has slept at a friend's. He admitted he has been flushing them so I wouldn't know. He admits that he doesn't like taking them with his friends around, even though he's told me they all know he takes them.
My response was to ask him why he told me this time. His answer was "now I know that when I don't take them, I feel sick." I told him thanks for telling me and then told him that some medications can have even worse things happen if you don't take them. I wanted the lesson to stick so I picked the worse case scenario for stopping some medications abruptly.
I am so proud of him for finally coming forward and I let him know that. Maybe he really IS growing up. He still isn't going to go to a sleepover for quite a long time. hehe