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<blockquote data-quote="dreamer" data-source="post: 29028" data-attributes="member: 1697"><p>Old thinking was that parents were the reason kids were "difficult" Some docs have not yet broken out of that mindset. It is sad. </p><p>Altho then there ARE parents who really do not parent well....their intentions are good, but maybe their own background held ineefective parenting or maybe they have unrealistic expectations of what having a child is or what "normal" child behavior looks like or the wide range of behavior that is still considered within normal limits. . Docs see a lot of those parents, too. Sometimes it is parents who are busy with their own issues and do not have enough leftover from dealing with their own issues, sometimes it is parents who had never been around children, sometimes it is parents who had poor parent role models. So- there are a lot of reasons why some docs just do not listen. </p><p>(and sometimes some docs just choose to be jerks, just becuz they got a medical degree does not mean they are perfect or wonderful themself) </p><p></p><p>As for children and medications? Part of the reason children are given some say so about their treatment is that there are some people out there who would drug their kids thru a doctor into oblivion, just becuz it makes their life easier. There are some people who would deny a child medications and treatment due to their own issues. Some people will force a child to withstand severe adverse side effects to gain a small degree of control over their child. ALso if a child is going to become a productive independant adult member of society, they need to learn to take ownership of their treatment. AND if a child has NO say so at all about it- some kids would not buy into treatment. - and at age 18 might then non comply simply in rebellion. </p><p></p><p>It is easy for a person to shrug off someone elses headache or stomach upset or fuzzy thinking and say "deal with it" becuz we seek the desired effect of a medication. Yet when that headache or stomach upset or fuzzy thinking belongs to us, very often we cannot tolerate it. Giving a child a say so in treatment helps the child feel his well being really is being cared for, and it also gives a child an opportunity to communicate with a doctor how he feels inside. Each person should have the right to have some degree of say so in their own level of comfort. And people are far more apt to comply if they are part of the decision making concerning their treatment. </p><p></p><p>Oceans, if your son is happy with his treatment, encourage him to speak up and say so. If he is not happy, encourage the same. Whether or not the doctor listens to you is one thing, but does the doctor listen to the patient? While it maybe us parents paying the bill for now, it is about the patient and their bodies and how they feel. and how they function. The doctor might be far more inclined to listen if your son speaks up.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dreamer, post: 29028, member: 1697"] Old thinking was that parents were the reason kids were "difficult" Some docs have not yet broken out of that mindset. It is sad. Altho then there ARE parents who really do not parent well....their intentions are good, but maybe their own background held ineefective parenting or maybe they have unrealistic expectations of what having a child is or what "normal" child behavior looks like or the wide range of behavior that is still considered within normal limits. . Docs see a lot of those parents, too. Sometimes it is parents who are busy with their own issues and do not have enough leftover from dealing with their own issues, sometimes it is parents who had never been around children, sometimes it is parents who had poor parent role models. So- there are a lot of reasons why some docs just do not listen. (and sometimes some docs just choose to be jerks, just becuz they got a medical degree does not mean they are perfect or wonderful themself) As for children and medications? Part of the reason children are given some say so about their treatment is that there are some people out there who would drug their kids thru a doctor into oblivion, just becuz it makes their life easier. There are some people who would deny a child medications and treatment due to their own issues. Some people will force a child to withstand severe adverse side effects to gain a small degree of control over their child. ALso if a child is going to become a productive independant adult member of society, they need to learn to take ownership of their treatment. AND if a child has NO say so at all about it- some kids would not buy into treatment. - and at age 18 might then non comply simply in rebellion. It is easy for a person to shrug off someone elses headache or stomach upset or fuzzy thinking and say "deal with it" becuz we seek the desired effect of a medication. Yet when that headache or stomach upset or fuzzy thinking belongs to us, very often we cannot tolerate it. Giving a child a say so in treatment helps the child feel his well being really is being cared for, and it also gives a child an opportunity to communicate with a doctor how he feels inside. Each person should have the right to have some degree of say so in their own level of comfort. And people are far more apt to comply if they are part of the decision making concerning their treatment. Oceans, if your son is happy with his treatment, encourage him to speak up and say so. If he is not happy, encourage the same. Whether or not the doctor listens to you is one thing, but does the doctor listen to the patient? While it maybe us parents paying the bill for now, it is about the patient and their bodies and how they feel. and how they function. The doctor might be far more inclined to listen if your son speaks up. [/QUOTE]
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