I'm fuming mad, not so much at Jumper as this woman who is her best friends mom. I will call her June. June's family has a thriving business and they have money out the wazoo. Not only do they have money on their own, but both sides of the family have money. The mother's mother always pays for the entire family to fly down to visit them in Florida. Now there is us. We barely make it, but we so far have made sure the kids don't feel it. They have always gotten what they wanted, even when I held off buying too much food. I haven't been on a vacation since my honeymoon eighteen years ago. I don't even know if I can go to Chicago this summer and it would only cost maybe $300. Jumper got a job. The idea was to save for college and to help pay for gas, which she claims she doesn't use up...that it's me doing all the driving. But it's not. My husband has noticed it too. All she needs to do is throw $10.00 in the tank when she drives the car. All my other kids did plus they paid their part of the insurance. She isn't doing that either. Things have never been bleaker for us financially and we will probably have to move to a mobile park or a small rental home when Sonic and Jumper leave next year. We have always cherished our k ids, but never had that extra money for great clothes or grand vacations or a house of our own. So... Today Jumper told me she had $250 in her savings. I asked her what she is saving for and she said "the vacation." I had no idea what she meant. I thought maybe school had a vacation. She said no. June and Ward are going on their 25th wedding anniversary to Cancun and if Jumper can save up over $1000, she can go too. All things included!!!!! isn't that terrific? They'll take her if she'll pay them to go. Now that probably isn't a lot of money for most people around here. We are in the lower half of the salary curb around here. For example, I just learned her boyfriend's mom is getting a brand new pool, which makes me feel like garbage because I can't provide that for my kids. June also has a pool. Anyway, I have no idea why June told Jumper about this vacation. She didn't ask us first. And she probably thinks we can fund some of it. We can't. Every dime we get in taxes this year will go to moving and bills. If Jumper would pitch in a bit for OUR family, maybe even only $50 every so often, it would be so much easier. She is really being stubborn about this and I feel terrible about having to put the kabosh on her fun. But she has her whole life to marry somebody who can make a good living and travel. This just isn't the time. Remember that Jumper is a great kid. She deserves some perks. What would you do if your easy child were doing this? I am still stunned. I just heard about it now. I need to have a talk with June, but that won't stop how disappointed Jumper will be. And I'm so tired of telling other people that "we can't afford to....". Jumper was also offered a spot on a baseball team in Minneapolis to play an important game and it was $500 so we had to say no. I feel like the worst mom, but the reality doesn't match the $$$.