I turn my attention away from difficult child school work (doesn't seem to matter if it's difficult child 1 or difficult child 2) and everything just falls apart. difficult child 1 is getting an F in two core classes and a D- in another. He either is not doing the work or not studying for the tests or just not getting the material. He started going to an after-school study session with his algebra teacher last week, and was supposed to go today, but for some reason he blew it off! Meanwhile, I'm sitting at school at 4:30 waiting for him to come out and at 4:45 I finally called the teacher and he said he never showed up. difficult child 2 has concentration problems that we still haven't figured out, too. His work is very inconsistent. I'm finding some nights he is able to really do an effective job on his homework only after 8:30pm! Why is that? Something about his medication? I just don't know and really need to think about this pattern to understand it better... And tonight he had a concert for band (he plays trumpet). We could see him sitting in the very back, CHEWING GUM! Occasionally he would put the instrument up to his mouth so it looked like he was playing. When we asked him about it afterwards, he got very defensive and said it's hard for him to follow along and keep up. Now I'm wondering if I should just let him drop the instrument and take vocal next year like he's asking. He won't practice, and I feel like I'm wasting money on his rental. And yet I think it's very important that he have this experience with performing arts. Am I expecting too much? It's so hard to know.