Last night I was at work (soooo interesting) and husband took difficult child to her apt. with- the therapist. Update: difficult child has been doing a tiny bit better (excuse me...while I cross myself and light a candle). She is working with a social worker trying to get a job. This has been interesting. Even with- assistance, she has not had any luck. She continues to try to get her child care certification, has cut back on smoking is doing a tad better with- staying with-i her budget, has left her alcoholic boyfriend (it seems real this time!!!) and seems to be doing a tad better in terms of friends in general. She came to the house the other day for dinner and a movie and was totally appropriate! HEY! Okay... When husband picked her up for the t-doctor appointment., he noticed that the apt. was filthy. She asked that we make a load of laundry for her...new place has no washer and dryer and there is no laundrymat nearby. husband does not want her washing clothes at our place (a discussion I plan on having with- t-doctor next family meeting...next month). Sooooo....husband comes in to help difficult child gather some clothes. GROSS stuff....as you guys know the drill.difficult child has three cats. Since difficult child leaves her clothes all over the places, the cats use the clothes to sleep in or worse. This does NOT bother difficult child. She has a laundry hamper with- a top....but rarely uses it. The rest of the place was really messy and dirty HOWEVER, husband tells me she MOPPED! So, bizarre! So, he asked her to shake out a few clothing items she really wanted and said he wash them and briefly talk with- the doctor about it...which he did. T-doctor made the following suggestions: 1. We hire a housekeeper one time...a "special" housekeeper who will work along side difficult child to show her how to clean. They do the job together. Housekeeper is to give difficult child "pointers." 2. Then periodically make surprise inspections (let's say two times a month). If her apt. is clean, we give her $10. Like a bonus. If it is not...we don't give her any money. It will be an opportunity for her to make some money and hopefully will teach her to keep her place clean...ongoing. The laundry wasn't really addressed yet...we are going to discuss this in family meeting (we meet once a month as a family) ...in a few weeks. What do you think of the possible cleaning plan? Any other ideas? Thanks.