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<blockquote data-quote="jbrain" data-source="post: 27562" data-attributes="member: 3450"><p>Hi Barbara,</p><p>I so related to your post--don't worry about it being lengthy--as you say, it helps to write it down and it surely is helping others as well.</p><p></p><p>When you say you knew difficult child used drugs but didn't realize drugs were the problem I had the same situation. I kept thinking it was bad parenting (she certainly told me iT was) and mental health issues, the drugs were secondary. Her stupid therapist even said this! She was using drugs because of underlying issues but the drugs were certainly why she was stealing and running away, not going to school, etc.</p><p></p><p>I think I had my blinders off the moment when I realized that maybe deep down inside my difficult child was just as she appeared on the surface--not a nice person! It finally occurred to me that what you see may be what you get--a selfish, uncaring person. Maybe there was no nice person deep down inside! I now think that she actually is pretty nice but I am so glad I finally realized that maybe she wasn't--helps a lot with the detachment thing! I feel like I see her for who she really is with a clearer vision now.</p><p></p><p>Thanks so much for a great post!</p><p>Jane</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="jbrain, post: 27562, member: 3450"] Hi Barbara, I so related to your post--don't worry about it being lengthy--as you say, it helps to write it down and it surely is helping others as well. When you say you knew difficult child used drugs but didn't realize drugs were the problem I had the same situation. I kept thinking it was bad parenting (she certainly told me iT was) and mental health issues, the drugs were secondary. Her stupid therapist even said this! She was using drugs because of underlying issues but the drugs were certainly why she was stealing and running away, not going to school, etc. I think I had my blinders off the moment when I realized that maybe deep down inside my difficult child was just as she appeared on the surface--not a nice person! It finally occurred to me that what you see may be what you get--a selfish, uncaring person. Maybe there was no nice person deep down inside! I now think that she actually is pretty nice but I am so glad I finally realized that maybe she wasn't--helps a lot with the detachment thing! I feel like I see her for who she really is with a clearer vision now. Thanks so much for a great post! Jane [/QUOTE]
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