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toughlovin
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So I finally got a call from the therapist. My difficult child did sign the release and it does sound like it was more a mix up than him not wanting me on the release. I liked the therapist over the phone. They are definitely seeing some of his defiant rule breaking behaviors and are addressing them. So in a very short time she seems to "get" him pretty well. One thing I like is that I think a lot of the staff are themselves recovering addicts so they really understand the substance abuse issues... He stopped by her office while we were on the phone so I got to say hello to him. He sounds ok and that is a relief to me. He said he would call us last night and didn't..... but that is ok. I was kind of afraid he would call and complain and I didn't want to deal with that. LOL. It does sound like he still really wants help and thats the main thing. She told me he has a lot of hard work to do. She told him I am willing to work hard with you, but I will not work harder than you do!! Which I think is right. He is the one that has to do the work here.
As far as his music... he did have music while in the detox program and then he did some manipulation of a staff person where he is now to borrow their ipod which was not supposed to happen. So he has lost that... we are sending him a non internet using ipod (his birthday present now) so he will get music by Monday... but if he had gone about this in a more cooperative way rather than manipulation and trying to bend the rules they would have figured something out. So hopefully there is a lesson in all that for him.
So I would like to hear from him but am ok if i don't. I now feel more confident that he is safe and is in the right place and so I am going to work on just relaxing and taking some time for ME and to do something I want to get done.
TL
As far as his music... he did have music while in the detox program and then he did some manipulation of a staff person where he is now to borrow their ipod which was not supposed to happen. So he has lost that... we are sending him a non internet using ipod (his birthday present now) so he will get music by Monday... but if he had gone about this in a more cooperative way rather than manipulation and trying to bend the rules they would have figured something out. So hopefully there is a lesson in all that for him.
So I would like to hear from him but am ok if i don't. I now feel more confident that he is safe and is in the right place and so I am going to work on just relaxing and taking some time for ME and to do something I want to get done.
TL