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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 749349" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>It has already had a positive effect because you are communicating directly to him, drawing a line, and he heard you. Nothing can reverse that.</p><p></p><p>Even if he does not stop right away, you are in control now, if you keep talking to him, and putting it to him. It's out there, now. You don't have to move. He will have to move, if he decides to continue. </p><p></p><p>If he continues, which is probably likely, at least for a bit, you may have to up the ante, and make it clear to him that he either stops or he leaves, and give him a move out date, and written notice. </p><p></p><p>You should not have to be his victim any longer and I would articulate that to him, directly. Make him accountable. He sounds like a highly intelligent and self-aware person,<em> when not under the influence. </em>Hold him accountable. </p><p></p><p>It's really cut and dry. It's your house. He becomes verbally abusive. He becomes suicidal. He self-harms. He is angry a lot of the time. This cannot happen at your home. You cannot permit this and you will not. You cannot cower in your home, at the hands of your own child. This is the issue. He has a right to continue these drinks, and do whatever else he wants. But not in your home.</p><p></p><p>You have turned the tables. Bravo.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 749349, member: 18958"] It has already had a positive effect because you are communicating directly to him, drawing a line, and he heard you. Nothing can reverse that. Even if he does not stop right away, you are in control now, if you keep talking to him, and putting it to him. It's out there, now. You don't have to move. He will have to move, if he decides to continue. If he continues, which is probably likely, at least for a bit, you may have to up the ante, and make it clear to him that he either stops or he leaves, and give him a move out date, and written notice. You should not have to be his victim any longer and I would articulate that to him, directly. Make him accountable. He sounds like a highly intelligent and self-aware person,[I] when not under the influence. [/I]Hold him accountable. It's really cut and dry. It's your house. He becomes verbally abusive. He becomes suicidal. He self-harms. He is angry a lot of the time. This cannot happen at your home. You cannot permit this and you will not. You cannot cower in your home, at the hands of your own child. This is the issue. He has a right to continue these drinks, and do whatever else he wants. But not in your home. You have turned the tables. Bravo. [/QUOTE]
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