I hate the system that thinks you are guilty until proven innocent. difficult child has had his SSI reduced by a third because he is living at our home despite the cancelled checks for rent and food. The pencil necked geek who callled us in said that difficult child isn't paying his fair share since what he pays isn't a third of our mortgage!!!!! I suggested if he got more he would pay more. Also, his job in the program in NJ wasn't reported and he will be deducted for those amounts. I explained that the jobs were obtained, out of state and through a program. I had no involvement and assumed that the school dealt with all of that since all their adults are on SSI. Tough cookies lady. This man was so aggitated and unreasonable that I realized he was trying to make sure we knew he was in control and had all the power. Once I figured out that he had to win and wasn't interested in the truth or explanation I sat back. I used my bobble head moves, smiled blankly and curbed difficult child in who was getting quite annoyed. The pencil necked geek won. I am going to appeal and ask for a reconsideration. I told difficult child you walk softly and carry your stick right up the ladder to his boss. We are not trying to get over and we are anxious to get him out of their system. I hate having people into our lives. I don't understand how he being an adult that they need to know my financial info. Our mortgage should have nothing to do with difficult child, should it? I have no rights since he is an adult. The truth is that difficult child is still disabled and if we don't have him in the system that he will be in trouble if husband and I die. He qualifies and we waited 5 yrs past the time he could apply. Now I know why. They treat you like a thief or look at you like you are dirt. Fortunately our case worker came along. She admitted that this guy was really awful and not at all like some of the other staff. Now she knows why I avoid them like the plague. She asked a question but the pencil neck almost put his nose up in the air with his condescention. She was virtually ignored and dismissed. She is going to help walk us through the system and I have to collect all difficult child's info. He never kept a pay stub much to the geeks displeasure. I will celebrate when difficult child has work and benefits and can get out of this system. Have any of you with adult children have their stipend reduced because they live at home?