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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 684593" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Colleen, I hope I have not written anything to offend you. If so, I apologize. Everyone has their story and moves at their own pace. It is okay Colleen,<em> this is your life</em>.</p><p>I have to tell you what I read in these responses are experiences from caring people who reach out with their stories in hopes to<em> spare others the grief and drama they have gone through.</em> So, at times posts may come across strong and seem judgemental, I don't think that is what is meant.</p><p>It's that old hindsight working, the " If I only knew then, what I know now, I would have done things differently" syndrome. </p><p></p><p>I am glad you wrote truthfully about how you are feeling.</p><p>I am so sorry for your heartache.</p><p></p><p>This is such a very difficult journey.</p><p></p><p>It was different for me when I first came to CD. I had pretty much made up my mind that I could not have my two living at home anymore. It did take me awhile to figure it out, okay I confess, <em>again</em>......<em> it was 18 on and off years</em>.....the last few being <em>pretty unbearable.</em></p><p>I remember when I went to a therapist and told my story. She looked at me and point blank said "You are an enabler......."</p><p>Whoa, I was not prepared to hear that. I was so ,well, <em>mad</em>.</p><p></p><p> It is okay Colleen, you have to go at your pace and be able to look at yourself in the mirror. That is the point of CD, take what seems right for you and your situation. No one here has a right to judge you, and I honestly do not think anyone does. <em>They may have differing opinions</em>, but not judgement. </p><p>We all had to figure our way, in our own due time.</p><p> I am sorry for your heartache. I don't think any of us thought we would be on this journey when our kids were growing up. </p><p></p><p>It is all so devastatingly hard. </p><p></p><p>Please know that there is no judgement here. </p><p>Just folks who want to try their best to help and share their stories truthfully. </p><p>I think these stories are so hard, how can one even relay them in a comfortable way? </p><p></p><p>None of us are professionals, just parents like you, <em>who love our kids dearly</em> and are at different junctions on this road <em>we never thought we would be on. </em></p><p><em></em></p><p>Take care and do something good for you.</p><p>You are not alone, and we do care so very much for you Colleen, you are a fellow sister warrior.</p><p>(((HUGS)))</p><p>leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 684593, member: 19522"] Colleen, I hope I have not written anything to offend you. If so, I apologize. Everyone has their story and moves at their own pace. It is okay Colleen,[I] this is your life[/I]. I have to tell you what I read in these responses are experiences from caring people who reach out with their stories in hopes to[I] spare others the grief and drama they have gone through.[/I] So, at times posts may come across strong and seem judgemental, I don't think that is what is meant. It's that old hindsight working, the " If I only knew then, what I know now, I would have done things differently" syndrome. I am glad you wrote truthfully about how you are feeling. I am so sorry for your heartache. This is such a very difficult journey. It was different for me when I first came to CD. I had pretty much made up my mind that I could not have my two living at home anymore. It did take me awhile to figure it out, okay I confess, [I]again[/I]......[I] it was 18 on and off years[/I].....the last few being [I]pretty unbearable.[/I] I remember when I went to a therapist and told my story. She looked at me and point blank said "You are an enabler......." Whoa, I was not prepared to hear that. I was so ,well, [I]mad[/I]. It is okay Colleen, you have to go at your pace and be able to look at yourself in the mirror. That is the point of CD, take what seems right for you and your situation. No one here has a right to judge you, and I honestly do not think anyone does. [I]They may have differing opinions[/I], but not judgement. We all had to figure our way, in our own due time. I am sorry for your heartache. I don't think any of us thought we would be on this journey when our kids were growing up. It is all so devastatingly hard. Please know that there is no judgement here. Just folks who want to try their best to help and share their stories truthfully. I think these stories are so hard, how can one even relay them in a comfortable way? None of us are professionals, just parents like you, [I]who love our kids dearly[/I] and are at different junctions on this road [I]we never thought we would be on. [/I] Take care and do something good for you. You are not alone, and we do care so very much for you Colleen, you are a fellow sister warrior. (((HUGS))) leafy [/QUOTE]
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