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<blockquote data-quote="so ready to live" data-source="post: 684662" data-attributes="member: 20054"><p>Hi Colleen.</p><p></p><p>Many of us have been where you are and many of us continue to step back and forth over that fine line. Besides, our thinking can actually be and feel as confused as our Difficult Child's. Do as you feel is right, that's what you have to live with. Use the accounts here as info. re: what has worked for others not as what "you should do", but frame your decisions armed with the info. you've learned. There is compassion here and help.</p><p></p><p></p><p>With much difficulty, hubby and I went to counseling and al-anon. Even that was exhausting. I told the therapist that I had been trying to fix it all for ten yrs, (actually 28), and now they all just wanted to give me two more jobs--to stop enabling and to fix ME. It seemed too much work to even begin. But by this time, I was so at the bottom. Slowly, ever so slowly, we have let our son go on to try to figure it out himself. So far, he has not. BUT, we are starting to...and have more peace than I thought could be possible. We have a long way to go. It's a marathon, not a sprint. Wherever you're at today in this race, I offer you a bottle of water, a word of encouragement. You are strong. Prayers.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="so ready to live, post: 684662, member: 20054"] Hi Colleen. Many of us have been where you are and many of us continue to step back and forth over that fine line. Besides, our thinking can actually be and feel as confused as our Difficult Child's. Do as you feel is right, that's what you have to live with. Use the accounts here as info. re: what has worked for others not as what "you should do", but frame your decisions armed with the info. you've learned. There is compassion here and help. With much difficulty, hubby and I went to counseling and al-anon. Even that was exhausting. I told the therapist that I had been trying to fix it all for ten yrs, (actually 28), and now they all just wanted to give me two more jobs--to stop enabling and to fix ME. It seemed too much work to even begin. But by this time, I was so at the bottom. Slowly, ever so slowly, we have let our son go on to try to figure it out himself. So far, he has not. BUT, we are starting to...and have more peace than I thought could be possible. We have a long way to go. It's a marathon, not a sprint. Wherever you're at today in this race, I offer you a bottle of water, a word of encouragement. You are strong. Prayers. [/QUOTE]
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