I knew most of those already.
I got great in laws. Unfortunatly husband can't say the same. Believe me, you NEVER want my mother for an in law. lol
Seems husband and I've beaten the odds in several areas. Age, whirlwind romance, I was under 20......
But then I know I had the utter determination to MAKE it work. Now that the kids are grown, I'm finding that I'm not really so determined anymore.
As for learning to be a mother in law myself.... I learned from the two best women in the world. I keep my nose out of their business as much as possible. Even when they tell me what's going on. I never OFFER advice. And often don't give it even when they directly ask for it.
sister in law has commented he feels more loved and appreciated by us than his own parents.
Even Nichole's boyfriend can't complain. While we did go toe to toe once(which wouldn't have happened if he'd had stopped dragging me into their arguments when I told him to), even after that I still treat him with utter kindness and respect. Doesn't much matter that I think he and Nichole shouldn't be together. Not really my business.