klmno
Active Member
I am so tic'd I had to come home for a cooling off period. difficult child is released with a suspended sentence of 30 days in detention if he violates again. He has no mental health treatment ordered. I, on the other hand, was threatened with jail time if I don't go get the mental health evaluation that was originally ordered a year ago and comply with whatever they recommend- which I already know is dictated by whatever the courts tell them my problem is. The judge asked if I had any questions and I politely asked what they thought my problem was and said I thought I had a right to know. He said due to difficult child's continued delinquency and that he's always lived with me, there could be something psychologically wrong with my parenting.
Well, given that difficult child doesn't need any reinforcement in his blame of me for his actions, given the things he said he intended to do last night and his desire to live in a group home, given that it's a real close call whether I'd rather be in jail or have these people take over my mental health, I'm not so sure I'll even go back over there to pick difficult child up. I was supposed to stay and wait on court orders and then go to detention to get him but I told PO that I kam leaving for a cooling off period. He said I can't leave difficult child- I said the H**L I can't. I'm going to cool off and will call over here later today to see if he's ready and determine if he's being released to me and if I'm bringing him home.
Oh- they had a meeting before court in the courtroom with the judge and a dss person had been there and also a new, different GAL who was assigned to difficult child. I asked PO and def attny if either had spoken to difficult child this morning and both said no. So, either the mental health evaluator determined the problem was that I don't buy into MST (no surprise- she works closely with MST guy), the prosecuting attny and/or the def attny stirred all this up again. Anyway, all of it had clearly been determined before difficult child and I even were called in.
I told PO I might end up in jail so where are they going to put difficult child then and he laughed and said I would not be going to jail. I just said well, I might be. And if difficult child has all intent of continuing down the same path and prefers to live in a group home where he thinks he has better chance of hanging out with the same kids and continuing on and the people in the system think it's my bad parenting that caused this, then have at it. That's when I told him I better leave for a cooling off period- as he stodd there chuckling.
Well, given that difficult child doesn't need any reinforcement in his blame of me for his actions, given the things he said he intended to do last night and his desire to live in a group home, given that it's a real close call whether I'd rather be in jail or have these people take over my mental health, I'm not so sure I'll even go back over there to pick difficult child up. I was supposed to stay and wait on court orders and then go to detention to get him but I told PO that I kam leaving for a cooling off period. He said I can't leave difficult child- I said the H**L I can't. I'm going to cool off and will call over here later today to see if he's ready and determine if he's being released to me and if I'm bringing him home.
Oh- they had a meeting before court in the courtroom with the judge and a dss person had been there and also a new, different GAL who was assigned to difficult child. I asked PO and def attny if either had spoken to difficult child this morning and both said no. So, either the mental health evaluator determined the problem was that I don't buy into MST (no surprise- she works closely with MST guy), the prosecuting attny and/or the def attny stirred all this up again. Anyway, all of it had clearly been determined before difficult child and I even were called in.
I told PO I might end up in jail so where are they going to put difficult child then and he laughed and said I would not be going to jail. I just said well, I might be. And if difficult child has all intent of continuing down the same path and prefers to live in a group home where he thinks he has better chance of hanging out with the same kids and continuing on and the people in the system think it's my bad parenting that caused this, then have at it. That's when I told him I better leave for a cooling off period- as he stodd there chuckling.