Hello all: Im sure my story is not a new one but here it is. I have an 11 yro step daughter that is blatently defiant and disrespectful of my wife as well as me. She has been "daddy's princess" her entire life and now cannot deal with being told NO. Dad is no help with her behavior, he feels I am the reason for the behavior because she is mad over the divorce and our marrage. When she does not get her way she throws fits worse than any two year old I have ever met, she screams at the top of her lungs about how much she hates me and her mother, whoever corrects her bad behavior or tells her no. She thows things, has hit her moother and has now began to threaten violence if she doesnt get what she wants, it started with saying she would hurt herself- it has now escalated to threatening to hurt our 8 mth old son. We have been seeing a family counciler but it is not helping, she ignores our attemps at dicipline, she gets so out of control we have had to call the police to try and get her under control. Dad will blame us saying we just dont know how to deal with her. He refuses to accept any responsibility for how she acts. Can anyone give some good advice on where to go from here.