I will try and keep this short and to the point. Both my step kids are walking a fine line with their habit, which I also believe to be a source of income. My husband and I have an unwritten agreement that we discipline our own children, as they are young adults. That being said he has discussions with them but there is never any consequence for their wrong doings. I was present for one discussion where they were informed if they are caught (by him) they will be asked to leave and live elsewhere, we will have zero tolerance for this in our home. So alternatively they hide things in our garage. My husband is aware that he has let things get out of control, but like many other parents of split marriage is afraid of losing his kids. I am struggling with how to deal with this moving forward. He says he disapproves, but his kids just seem to come and go an do as they please. Their mother remarried and the step dad has ZERO tolerance, and because of this the boys seldom go to her house. I love my husband dearly, and do not want this to be the undoing of our marriage. Any advice or suggestions would be welcomed.