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<blockquote data-quote="CookieMomster" data-source="post: 67840" data-attributes="member: 3936"><p>Beth..I wish I were as strong as you. There are times I suffer from the guilt...I tried for three years and I just had to get some relief. I date my ex husband now and see my step difficult child 2 or 3 times a month.... and I know I made the right decision. The husband still doesnt "see" things. He waits for the "mistakes" then punishes....he is reactive NOT PROACTIVE. But husband has no one to worry about except hiself ...I have two other children to worry for.... enough of that.</p><p></p><p>My easy child daughter always had some problems..which have gotten worse...partly due to the "life" we had with difficult child....and other things....I am thankful that step difficult child isn't a daily worry so I can concentrate on my daughter (and my son who isnt exactly mentally healthy either). </p><p></p><p>I just wanted to point out to you that not all people handle things the same way. I dont know if I did the right thing...I prayed hard about it...for years... and when MY doctor said..."you aren't going to make it if you dont start sleeping and taking care of yourself"... my answer was all too obvious. I had ABSOLUTELY no support for difficult child..NONE. That is why I am telling you...if you can get some "support" from family/friends...TAKE IT. dont worry about how they will screw him up with free rein while you are not there...dont make them try to see things you see...(they will in time)....let them blame you for everything .....they are going to do that regardless- PLEASE...PLEASE..PLEASE.... protect your own mental and physical health and GET A BREAK. Warrior moms are not invincible. (writing that to you..is therapy to me...reminds me...that I also need breaks...and i get them occassionally when the sperm donor comes to take my easy child/difficult child daughter..lol).</p><p></p><p>The moms/dads here helped me SO MUCH back then..that is why I am back now. this is all about trial and error or success. </p><p></p><p>If you get to heaven before me...will you please talk to God..and ask him to include owners manuals on the newer models so future parents dont have all this? lol. (oh and for him to put zippers on the newer models for easy surgeries). </p><p></p><p>(sending you a pina colada, beautiful white beaches with blue ocean...and lots of eye candy to look at)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CookieMomster, post: 67840, member: 3936"] Beth..I wish I were as strong as you. There are times I suffer from the guilt...I tried for three years and I just had to get some relief. I date my ex husband now and see my step difficult child 2 or 3 times a month.... and I know I made the right decision. The husband still doesnt "see" things. He waits for the "mistakes" then punishes....he is reactive NOT PROACTIVE. But husband has no one to worry about except hiself ...I have two other children to worry for.... enough of that. My easy child daughter always had some problems..which have gotten worse...partly due to the "life" we had with difficult child....and other things....I am thankful that step difficult child isn't a daily worry so I can concentrate on my daughter (and my son who isnt exactly mentally healthy either). I just wanted to point out to you that not all people handle things the same way. I dont know if I did the right thing...I prayed hard about it...for years... and when MY doctor said..."you aren't going to make it if you dont start sleeping and taking care of yourself"... my answer was all too obvious. I had ABSOLUTELY no support for difficult child..NONE. That is why I am telling you...if you can get some "support" from family/friends...TAKE IT. dont worry about how they will screw him up with free rein while you are not there...dont make them try to see things you see...(they will in time)....let them blame you for everything .....they are going to do that regardless- PLEASE...PLEASE..PLEASE.... protect your own mental and physical health and GET A BREAK. Warrior moms are not invincible. (writing that to you..is therapy to me...reminds me...that I also need breaks...and i get them occassionally when the sperm donor comes to take my easy child/difficult child daughter..lol). The moms/dads here helped me SO MUCH back then..that is why I am back now. this is all about trial and error or success. If you get to heaven before me...will you please talk to God..and ask him to include owners manuals on the newer models so future parents dont have all this? lol. (oh and for him to put zippers on the newer models for easy surgeries). (sending you a pina colada, beautiful white beaches with blue ocean...and lots of eye candy to look at) [/QUOTE]
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