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<blockquote data-quote="2much2recover" data-source="post: 647632" data-attributes="member: 18366"><p>Well Drew, you have to do what is best for her and it seems to me that is what you are trying to accomplish and also you are doing a good job at standing your ground/boundaries. One thing I will say to give you peace of mind: don't let it bother you that she is uncooperative, mean or hateful. She is absolutely entitled to her feelings to not like what your choices for her are. Every human has the right to their own feelings. As the adult, you know what is best for your child so just don't let the theatrics of her behavior break YOUR boundaries to what is best for her. She has every right to be PO-ed, but she still has to do what you say she will do. Don't let her make you feel like the bad guy for making the right choices, you get to a point of peace with yourself by understanding that she has the right to her feelings, not the right to choose about the choices you are responsible for making for her. Just understand, she probably will fight you every step of the way. To that I say SO WHAT? She still needs the help and guidance of professionals, and putting her in a place that can offer her that is the best decision you can make for both her and your family. You are being a good father/husband by moving forward and doing right by your child. Don't doubt yourself. If you child didn't need out-of-home placement, they wouldn't have accepted her.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="2much2recover, post: 647632, member: 18366"] Well Drew, you have to do what is best for her and it seems to me that is what you are trying to accomplish and also you are doing a good job at standing your ground/boundaries. One thing I will say to give you peace of mind: don't let it bother you that she is uncooperative, mean or hateful. She is absolutely entitled to her feelings to not like what your choices for her are. Every human has the right to their own feelings. As the adult, you know what is best for your child so just don't let the theatrics of her behavior break YOUR boundaries to what is best for her. She has every right to be PO-ed, but she still has to do what you say she will do. Don't let her make you feel like the bad guy for making the right choices, you get to a point of peace with yourself by understanding that she has the right to her feelings, not the right to choose about the choices you are responsible for making for her. Just understand, she probably will fight you every step of the way. To that I say SO WHAT? She still needs the help and guidance of professionals, and putting her in a place that can offer her that is the best decision you can make for both her and your family. You are being a good father/husband by moving forward and doing right by your child. Don't doubt yourself. If you child didn't need out-of-home placement, they wouldn't have accepted her. [/QUOTE]
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