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<blockquote data-quote="so ready to live" data-source="post: 728037" data-attributes="member: 20054"><p>Dear MUM. My heart goes out to you. So many of our stories sound the same.</p><p></p><p>Your son knows you love him. Repeat---your son knows you love him, he does. It gets so muddy in our worlds, doesn't it? Do protect yourself, I think for me that was the hardest concept to learn-that I mattered above the mire of it all. The wisdom of not sliding down the hole with him was lost on me for so long. I really almost had a nervous breakdown before I pulled away from his self made drama. I still want so much for him, seemingly so much more than he ever has the desire to have. </p><p>Your realization of just not engaging to protect your sanity is such a great step forward. The texts instead of the conversations or face-to-face says that you know a boundary, I too pray for a day with my son simply enjoying being with us instead of looking at us for what we can do for him. But, I have to live my life today still knowing my dreams for him may never come true. Accepting that reality and finding the ground you can live with regarding helping is a lifelong struggle. </p><p>We get it, hold tight, you're stronger than you think. Prayers.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="so ready to live, post: 728037, member: 20054"] Dear MUM. My heart goes out to you. So many of our stories sound the same. Your son knows you love him. Repeat---your son knows you love him, he does. It gets so muddy in our worlds, doesn't it? Do protect yourself, I think for me that was the hardest concept to learn-that I mattered above the mire of it all. The wisdom of not sliding down the hole with him was lost on me for so long. I really almost had a nervous breakdown before I pulled away from his self made drama. I still want so much for him, seemingly so much more than he ever has the desire to have. Your realization of just not engaging to protect your sanity is such a great step forward. The texts instead of the conversations or face-to-face says that you know a boundary, I too pray for a day with my son simply enjoying being with us instead of looking at us for what we can do for him. But, I have to live my life today still knowing my dreams for him may never come true. Accepting that reality and finding the ground you can live with regarding helping is a lifelong struggle. We get it, hold tight, you're stronger than you think. Prayers. [/QUOTE]
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