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<blockquote data-quote="ColleenB" data-source="post: 728111" data-attributes="member: 19887"><p>Mum, I know your pain and feelings of doubt and isolation. These boards have been a saving grace for me. </p><p></p><p>I have real time people I have been able to talk to but like you all have mentioned I feel the awkward moments and judgement. Most people who haven’t lived it don’t get it. I have one friend here in town who does have a child with addiction and mental health issues and I’m trying to be a support to her. I don’t always succeed to reach out when I haven’t heard from her in a while and then I feel so badly, as I know how lonely it is. Since my son is doing well right now, it’s like I want to block out all those years and push the memories away. But I am aware that I need to have time to reach out to others and also to have time to reflect and heal. Denial it happened or forgetting it won’t heal the hurt and pain. Trying to move forward most days and seeing my son laughing and productive is for sure a huge balm to my wounds. I am a very forgiving person and maybe this is the real deal, I am so very hopeful for him. </p><p></p><p>It shows that they can decide to make changes, it didn’t happen overnight, but he did begin making decisions that he wanted change. Nothing I ever said made the difference. </p><p></p><p>I guess I’m saying don’t blame your actions/ reactions.. they have to want to change for their own reasons. </p><p></p><p>Know you aren’t alone and keep posting ....</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ColleenB, post: 728111, member: 19887"] Mum, I know your pain and feelings of doubt and isolation. These boards have been a saving grace for me. I have real time people I have been able to talk to but like you all have mentioned I feel the awkward moments and judgement. Most people who haven’t lived it don’t get it. I have one friend here in town who does have a child with addiction and mental health issues and I’m trying to be a support to her. I don’t always succeed to reach out when I haven’t heard from her in a while and then I feel so badly, as I know how lonely it is. Since my son is doing well right now, it’s like I want to block out all those years and push the memories away. But I am aware that I need to have time to reach out to others and also to have time to reflect and heal. Denial it happened or forgetting it won’t heal the hurt and pain. Trying to move forward most days and seeing my son laughing and productive is for sure a huge balm to my wounds. I am a very forgiving person and maybe this is the real deal, I am so very hopeful for him. It shows that they can decide to make changes, it didn’t happen overnight, but he did begin making decisions that he wanted change. Nothing I ever said made the difference. I guess I’m saying don’t blame your actions/ reactions.. they have to want to change for their own reasons. Know you aren’t alone and keep posting .... [/QUOTE]
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