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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 27052" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Al I can add to what's been said, is for you, as much as you can, to use times like bath times and meal times also as quality time for you. Play with them in the bath as you help them wash. Get them to wash each other's backs. Blow bubbles. It needn't take much longer, if any time, but if the time is more enjoyable for ALL of you, you all feel less stressed and you enjoy the time together. Sounds like you're all too busy trying to keep to an impossible schedule, set by the medication. Life is just not fair to you. This may be a way of grabbing back some of that balance and control that's been taken from you.</p><p></p><p>You continue the games when they get out of the bath - if the weather is cold either have a heater in there or dry the kids one at a time. I wouldn't insist on him doing it for himself when he's feeling drugged and rushed. Weekends are plenty time for that. You can make a game out of drying the kids, as someone else suggested.</p><p></p><p>The trouble is, it's hard to feel inventive when life is rushing you on at a horrendous pace.</p><p></p><p>Task-changing can also add to meltdowns - getting in the bath is task-changing, so is getting out. Making it a game can make it easier. Getting the kids to race each other is another good game. First one to be dry, first one to have clothes on, first one to have shoes on, etc.</p><p></p><p>I used to work full-time with three kids under school age. I was able to spend my lunchtimes with them and play then, plus I would feed them their lunch to make sure it was a healthy one. Sometimes I'd bath them at lunchtime at the child care centre. It meant I could "top and tail" them and put them to bed when we got home. I would cook the evening meal t he night before and reheat a serve for each kid as soon as I walked in the door. Then after they were in bed, I would get cooking with the next night's casserole. I had time, then, to cook without interruptions. The flavours would mingle well during the day in the fridge and it tasted even better the next night.</p><p></p><p>I would certainly raise the problems with the doctors as soon as possible - the whole idea of medication and treatment in general, is to work within the framework of the patient's lifestyle and needs. If the medications work but make life unlivable, then it's not good.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 27052, member: 1991"] Al I can add to what's been said, is for you, as much as you can, to use times like bath times and meal times also as quality time for you. Play with them in the bath as you help them wash. Get them to wash each other's backs. Blow bubbles. It needn't take much longer, if any time, but if the time is more enjoyable for ALL of you, you all feel less stressed and you enjoy the time together. Sounds like you're all too busy trying to keep to an impossible schedule, set by the medication. Life is just not fair to you. This may be a way of grabbing back some of that balance and control that's been taken from you. You continue the games when they get out of the bath - if the weather is cold either have a heater in there or dry the kids one at a time. I wouldn't insist on him doing it for himself when he's feeling drugged and rushed. Weekends are plenty time for that. You can make a game out of drying the kids, as someone else suggested. The trouble is, it's hard to feel inventive when life is rushing you on at a horrendous pace. Task-changing can also add to meltdowns - getting in the bath is task-changing, so is getting out. Making it a game can make it easier. Getting the kids to race each other is another good game. First one to be dry, first one to have clothes on, first one to have shoes on, etc. I used to work full-time with three kids under school age. I was able to spend my lunchtimes with them and play then, plus I would feed them their lunch to make sure it was a healthy one. Sometimes I'd bath them at lunchtime at the child care centre. It meant I could "top and tail" them and put them to bed when we got home. I would cook the evening meal t he night before and reheat a serve for each kid as soon as I walked in the door. Then after they were in bed, I would get cooking with the next night's casserole. I had time, then, to cook without interruptions. The flavours would mingle well during the day in the fridge and it tasted even better the next night. I would certainly raise the problems with the doctors as soon as possible - the whole idea of medication and treatment in general, is to work within the framework of the patient's lifestyle and needs. If the medications work but make life unlivable, then it's not good. Marg [/QUOTE]
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